Maybe some counselling would help

Becoming a mother completely changes most women. You are holding, feeding, rocking a tiny human all day everyday and then are supposed to all of a sudden get sexy and want sex? Nup, sorry! The sleep deprevation especially makes you exhausted to the point where you don’t even want to shower let alone be intimate. Give it time and if it doesn’t improve maybe consider counselling?

It’s hard that’s for sure- being a mum is a new journey she’s trying to learn as she goes too. When i had my first – i have to admit, all my attention was on my daughter and i pushed my husband to the side unintentionally. Just give it time, and talk it out.

I really do hope your relationship is on the mend.

Seems like you both have unresolved issues. If you’re both serious about staying together and making a go of things, maybe some relationship counselling might be good. She’s just had a baby, it could be she’s still adjusting to being a mum, that might explain not wanting sex and her being mean.

It will take at least six weeks for your girlfriend’s body to recover from giving birth. Also having a newborn is very tiring. You might also need to watch out for signs of post natal depression. Be kind to one another, give her a lot of affection, and a lot of help with the baby. Your whole relationship has just changed – give it time to adjust to a new normal.

She probably physically doesn’t want to have sex right now while her body recovers. She might also be feeling insecure about your behaviour before the baby was born. Get her to see someone to talk about it having a baby is a very emotional and often difficult time. Be gentle with her and allow her time to find her feet.