My youngest daughter has been dating a guy for over 5 years now and has moved in with him but he does not work sleeps until 2pm most days then goes and plays video games while my daughter goes out working supporting him which I am so angry and sad about. She deserves so much better, I dont interfere at all but sometimes I feel like I really want to say something to her but if I did I know I would not here or see her again so I just shut up. Its really hard to see your daughter like this

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  • She will wake up one day. Don’t interfere otherwise she will rebel.

  • My advice to your daughter, get rid of him now! He won’t change and it gets harder, take it from someone who chose a lazy guy and regrets it

  • I wouldn’t say anything, it’s not your choice unfortunately. Hard to watch but as long as she knows your there for her she will hopefully work it out

  • I wouldn’t say anything to her. Just continue to be there for her so if and when the time comes, she knows you have her back xx

  • I met a lazy guy, had kids with a lazy guy and regret it. He is just like the guy described here except he’s in his 50s. Everything is left up to me, it’s like another child that never grows up and never leaves home. Please say something and maybe save her from having a miserable life like I’ve had

  • In my opinion, the best thing you can do is be there for her and hopefully she’ll come to you to lean on in the near future. I dated a similar type of person until I was almost 19, I thought I was in love. One day I realised I wasn’t happy and made a change. Even though my family all felt this way long before I did, I had to come to the realisation myself. Wishing you and your family the best.

  • she should leave him NOW. He is now accustomed to being kept……I would run if I was her….

  • Unfortunately as parents we can’t do much about this. Just hope that our child realises before they spend too much time with this person.

  • The only thing as parents we can do is role model healthy relationships and life choices. Children need to go on a journey of discovery and they often do come out at the right end; but as a parents it is hard to watch some journeys and choices.

  • This was me, my dad one day said can you please just look at how much you are spending on this person, add it up. So 13 years in I did. Then I left.

  • We can not choose partners for children or family and the only thing we do is maintain relationships and keep communication open.

  • Aw bless that must be hard to see this happening and bite your tongue ! Good that you do though. Hope she discovers this pattern herself without getting hurt too badly !

  • That would be so hard to see your daughter going through this. I hope she can see that he is no good for her on her own and make a smart choice. Saying something will only make her defensive – even if she knows youre right deep down

  • It’s so hard as you can’t interfere. Hopefully she will work it out for herself sooner rather than later.

  • You have more control than I do! I don’t think I would be able to keep it in and I don’t think hubby would be happy about it either.
    Hopefully she meets someone who will open her eyes!

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