Why since my 19 month old was sick will she not self settle anymore?

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Why since my 19 month old was sick will she not self settle anymore? – My 19 month old daughter got sick about 3 months ago. Now she won’t go to sleep by herself anymore. The only way she will sleep is if we take her for a drive. We have tried letting her cry it out but she cries so much she vomits and then it’s change sheets and in the car. I am so tired. She’s not going down until around 10pm each night and then will wake up at 3am unable to put herself back down. Also when I mention bed or try to put her in her cot she clings to me and whimpers. Some nights I am getting only 4 hours sleep. (Which over a week is not good) Please any advice would be greatly appreciated. I want my sleep and my sanity back!

Posted by anon, 19/10/13

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- - mom71809 said
  - 15 Oct 2015
    8:53 pm
Oh dear! This sounds so familiar – is it sorted out now? Babies change all the time. We had a great sleep routine and then overnight it changed. Not sure what triggered it but we’ve had similar problems to you ever since.
- - gem1991 said
  - 28 May 2014
    4:55 pm
is she going on now>?
- - mummy liana said
  - 28 Mar 2014
    12:06 am
there are some good comments here
- - mummy liana said
  - 26 Mar 2014
    10:20 pm
how is she now ?
- - yyon4699 said
  - 24 Mar 2014
    10:26 pm
Teething at 19 mo?? What??
- - jodie80 said
  - 24 Mar 2014
    3:21 pm
she could be teething to oxoxoxox
- - memo said
  - 22 Jan 2014
    10:55 am
hope is is well now and you are both back into a routine.
- - ljsalomon said
  - 30 Dec 2013
    10:02 pm
Is she settling better for you now?
- - coppin85 said
  - 29 Dec 2013
    3:15 pm
how is it going now?
- - kathryn said
  - 28 Dec 2013
    9:31 pm
we had a problem with mine and she too would only fall asleep in the car. my husband was the master of extracting her from her car seat and then we were able to get her into bed. She’d wake for a bottle but then go back to sleep.
- - meltingmoment said
  - 28 Dec 2013
    8:47 pm
How is she settling now?
- - mggarner said
  - 30 Nov 2013
    11:10 am
How is she now?
- - mggarner said
  - 29 Nov 2013
    11:41 am
Good luck and I hope it works better for you now
- - hopefullyheidi said
  - 09 Nov 2013
    3:18 pm
Hope this situation has worked itself out for you
- - miss smith said
  - 04 Nov 2013
    2:55 pm
Poor little darling just wants her mama. I let all of my babies fall asleep on my lap and then transferred them to bed from there. Its not for everyone but they grow up in no time then they don’t want mum any more so I took every opportunity I could to snuggle each one of them and hold them when they slept. My older two I have to hold down for snuggles now and they constantly try and get away so I don’t regret sitting and holding them for a minute! The house cleaning or whatever else I wanted to do just wasn’t as important as those amazing times of snuggling and looking at their sweet little sleeping faces.
- - snoopy said
  - 25 Oct 2013
    6:46 pm
She has gotten used to whatever you were doing when she was sick, you will have to re teach the old routine.
- - kjgarner said
  - 23 Oct 2013
    9:21 am
You need to find a routine again
- - Jeanette Jessamy Fornier via Facebook said
  - 22 Oct 2013
    7:44 am
night terrors – possibly the result of a fever and its repeating in her dreams
- - meedee said
  - 21 Oct 2013
    10:05 pm
Oh you poor thing….believe me I understand how the lack of sleep thing nearly kills you.

I agree 100% with what nataliea has suggested.

Good luck to you.
- - deangunna said
  - 21 Oct 2013
    9:40 pm
Yes the little sweeties seem to get into bad habits after being sick. We all do it. Also just when you think you know their routine or style they change it. One option is to disappear at bed time and get dad to take over and do bedtime. (a different person can make a big difference sometimes) Also the sitting next to the cot and slowly moving away etc over a few night might work too. I had to do this during the day to help my child get over separation anxiety. Goodluck