Hell yes! Any mum worth her salt feels guilty about a multitude of things when her kids are involved. I used to feel guilty having my kids babysat for a few hours, it must be so much harder for you. But you know you’re doing it for the greater good of you both. So keep it up, you’re doing a great job

I think it is normal to feel like this, especially if you’ve had something traumatic in recent past or bad relationship, that makes you doubt yourself. Guilt is never a good thing. It can hamper your energy etc. I’d really suggest trying to work it out and get rid of it – journal, counselling, meditation etc. because it could stop you enjoying the time you do have with your child.

As a single mum of three I can understand to a certain degree. I work four days a week and continually feel guilty for this. I then think if I wasn’t working they would not have the little extras in life I can provide. We still have movie afternoons on the weekends and cook meals together, creating memories.

It must be very hard being a single Mum with such a young bub but you should be so proud of yourself for what you are doing!
It is hard right now & you feel like you are missing out on special time but you are providing yourself & your child with a better future!
Your child will appreciate what you are doing when they are older & you will feel so much better once you move into your own home.
Keep going love, not many single Mum’s can or would do what you’re doing.
You’re an inspiration & should be very proud of yourself!

All the time, you just need to remind yourself you are doing what is best for you both in the long run and when you get moments together make them that more special.

What you are doing is good! You are trying to set up a stable life for you and your child. You are doing what is best for both of you. Hold your head high!

Its very hard being a single mum both on you and your child do you really need to work fulltime they are only little once! Im a single mum to and I only work 2 days a wk and love having a bit of time to myself even if im just working. you got to do what you have to. best of luck.

Every. Single. Day. And sometimes well meaning people make comments that just make it harder. The questions are always there. Am I doing the right thing? What if I…? Would it be better if I…? And it’s the hardest thing, this being a mummy thing. I have to consciously try to stop my thoughts because they end up causing me to get so stressed out that some days I can go from being Mary Poppins to Cruella DaVille and then I have the added guilt of how I’ve talked to my little men. It is tough. But you have to believe you’re doing what’s best right now. If you’ve got good care for your bub and your goal is to make a better life for you both, trust in that. Do what works for you, and try, and I know it’s hard sometimes, not to take on board what other people think you should be doing with your life. It’s easy for people to comment, it’s hard to live in it and try to be superhuman. I’m sure you’re a great mum (otherwise you wouldn’t have worried enough to put up a question), hang on to that, and remind yourself that you, doing what you can to be a single mummy holding it all together, are doing a great job.

Not that I’m a single mum, however I went back to work as soon as my maternity leave was over and never once felt guilty. Our daughter benefited from my income, perhaps you should try and look at what you are doing like that, nothing to feel guilty about.

i know its hard but remind yourself your doing it for him and cherish the time you are home

Yep, being away from our kids can really be an emotional time, but we need to do it. The sad thing is we miss so much of their growing when we are away working

It’s normal to feel a little bit guilty. Just remember that you are doing what’s best for both of you.

TBH I have three girl, im at at home mum and I would Love to be a mum that works. How I miss be able to enjoy life out in the workforce making a living.

It is hard but you have to keep reminding yourself you are doing this to improve your situation and you will be creating a better future for you both. Just make sure you enjoy the time together when you have it. Kids grow up and they appreciate all you do.

how are you going now

sure do, but I guess we have to do what is best for the long run

there are some good comments here

maybe if you feel bad, you can make a day were your not working to spend it with him doing fun things he will love it and so will you

Don’t feel guilty for providing the beast possible life you can for your baby. It’s s tough gig being a single mum. Just make the time you do have with him full of love, cuddles and smiles xx

You are a great mum who is doing the best she can to provide a better future for your baby, so please try not to feel guilty about doing what you are doing. I had the same moments of guilt when I went back to work full time, 2 months pregnant with our 2nd child, and “subjecting” Master 3 to full time day care. I wanted to be able to stay at home for at least 18 months after Baby #2 was born, and working full time until I was 38 weeks pregnant was the only way we could afford to realise my goal. Maser 3 LOVED being at day care – he loved the socialisation, all the activities and games he got to play all day long, and his carers loved having him there. I still got to spend quality time with Master 3 at night and on weekends, and I made sure we made the most of the time we had together. Master 3 gives me cuddles and kisses every night and tells me he loves me very very much. That’s what I live for – and hearing this helps to make sense of what I do every day.

Baby #2 arrived 11 days ago and we’ve been home just on a week. I spent the bulk of yesterday yelling at Master 3 to be quiet / stop being annoying / stop whinging and whining / be more cooperative, etc, and felt guilty at every horrible word coming out of my mouth. And when I put him to bed last night, he told me he loved me very very much and gave me a great big cuddle and kisses. Kids are so much more resilient and forgiving than we give them credit for, and even though I apologised for being grumpy with him, Master 3 had already moved on from the episodes of yelling. All I had to do was to get over my pangs of guilt.

Please don’t beat yourself up about trying to provide the best life you can for you and your little one. You are amazing and you should be proud of what you are doing. I agree with some of the other posters – no matter what you do, whether you work full time, are a stay at home mum, work part time, needing to hire a sitter so you can get chores done, drop them off with someone so you can get some rest, leave a crying baby for a minute or two in the safety of his cot because you’re busting to go to the toilet, etc, there will always be moments of guilt. Deep breaths, and keep reminding yourself you are awesome and amazing, and hopefully, this will help ease those moments of guilt.