Im not so sure about the wording of this question. I dont need to do anything to stay in love with him. But to make sure he feels my love I write him little notes and put them in his pockets, lunch box, wallet, etc. i leave them for him to find.

Make it a habit to do something nice for them and they will usually do the same in return. It helps you feel appreciated.

Also make sure to have a date night once a month.

Great question.. thank you for asking as I would like to know as well. Thank you to all who have answered too.. some great ideas!

Communicate your feelings regularly, no one is a mind reader and your partner may not realise how your feeling. Easy to drift apart when your not being open and honest all the time, i say from personal experience. Try new things often to keep the relationship feeling new. Ultimately I think it comes down to having a good friendship because there will be hard times in any long relationship but if you have a solid friendship as the core it will have a stable foundation. Spend time apart and make sure you have other things to focus on besides your partner (and children) passions that mean a lot to you, for me that is making art or music.

So hard, because you can’t always carve time out for somehting like a “date night”. Try to set aside 10 or 15 minutes every few days to talk about something other than work and/ or the kids. Just a few minutes for a bit of mental “fun”.

Ha ha I wish to know….I believe that sex is not so necessary…for me its being present and supporting me.

Make time for each other and communicate. You might not feel up to it, even I date night with just the two of you can help. Marriage isn’t supposed to be easy you gotta work at it x

Shower together every now and then! It saves water and soaping each other’s body is a nice way to reconnect… and often leads to some quick fun!

My partner and I have just recently gone back to basics with our relationship to spark the excitement again. Having little ones can be so exhausting and we were finding less and less time with each other. We now make sure to even just have a simple kiss and cuddle every day to show each other we still love and care. It has helped so much. We also openly communicate more over dinner which has also helped.

I try to remember that this newborn phase won’t be forever, so we will get back to what we used to have. For now, we settle with making sure we have 5 minutes at night to quickly chat, hug and reconnect.

Date nights… Dinner once a fortnight?

Following as I’m struggling to net get bogged down in daily life too

These are good tips, I need to get into a routine for this too

Good question. I don’t know how people form such close bonds and stay together through all walks of life. Something special about that.

My partner makes sure we have date day once a week as he thinks it’s important to spend that few hours together alone without the kids etc, he reckons this is a big factor in keeping your relationship alive ????

We hold hands for a little while before we go to sleep – no matter how angry we are or what else is happening. It reminds us that we are connected and ends the day on a positive note that doesn’t involve the kids (although they are sometimes in the bed at the time).

Make very conscious efforts. Find time every day, even if it is just to have a coffee together. All relationships need work and your partnership is probably the most important one to maintain. Sometimes even the small things can mean so much.

Find time to put aside at least once per week for date night

Communication… Honestly the best thing you can do is keep talking to each other. If you’re tired/exhausted be honest, explain your feelings and in turn listen to theirs. Try and compromise where you can and don’t underestimate the little things. Small gestures show you care and can keep the romance alive. Try and pencil some one on one time into your diaries as much as you can too.

You need to prioritise time together, I know that is a cliche, but the relationship won’t work on it’s own. Also we balance responsibilities of family etc, but whoever is most “recharged and ready to tackle the kids, chores etc. So good communication, even if it’s saying “I’m over it right now”.