Hello!

So I am in a mother’s group with 15 mums and bubs where all bubs are born within a few weeks of each other and some of them haven’t invited a few of us to their birthday parties or other events, what do I do? Do I prepare nothing has happened?


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  • Rather than preparing as if nothing happened, it might help to address how you’re feeling, but in a non-confrontational way. Maybe you could reach out to the ones who haven’t included you and just express interest in getting together outside of the group. You could say something like, “Hey, I noticed we haven’t had a chance to catch up in a while. Would love to get the kids together for a playdate sometime!” This way, you’re extending the invitation and opening up a chance to connect.


  • Some people have large family’s and don’t want to or can’t afford to invite everyone. I myself didn’t invite anyone from my mothers group to my sons first birthday party, why? Because I already had 30 close friends and family that were coming. Adding the mums and kids from the mothers group would have easily pushed me over the 50 mark


  • This happens to me often – I’m quite quiet and can often feel overlooked. So I just pretend nothing’s happened. It’s hard to invite everyone to everything anyway.


  • Don’t take it personally. Would you want to invite all of them to your party? I’m sure there are some mothers whom you like more than others.


  • Don’t take it to heart. They’re probably only inviting those they are closest to or live close by. Some people have to keep guest lists to a minimum to keep costs down, nothing personal


  • Say see ya later! That’s what I did. Too much drama with mothers groups in my opinion. I made two great friends out of it who I see regularly.


  • Don’t take it personally, in my mums group half of the people had family only events and is natural that you will gravitate towards some people more than others. It’s impossible to have strong relationships with all 15, if you get a close crew of 3-4 out of that you’ll be set x


  • You can ask or just leave it and just keep going with what your doing


  • If it was only you not getting invited, that would be an issue, but if it’s a few of you, I wouldn’t worry. It’s normal for larger groups to have some people closer than others. It’s awful feeling rejected though, why I never did mum’s groups, I’m sensitive and over think and it was just stressful as I have depression and anxiety.


  • Thanks all for your responses.


  • parties can get expensive and if they could only invite so many people you may just not have made the list. I wouldn’t take it personally.


  • That is a large group, so realistically you will not all be able to stay in touch. I wouldn’t stress, and just put in effort with those you get along well with moving forward


  • I wouldn’t stress too much. It might be a case of not being able to invite everyone or if it is a deliberate snub then it doesn’t matter either! It’s not worth making a fuss over.


  • I wouldn’t worry about it there are too many people to invite everyone.


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