I am dead set on having 1 child. People think I’ll change my mind later on. What are your thoughts?

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  • Everyone is different.
    For me I found it was harder having one then it was to have two. My eldest two entertained each other and allowed me to get things done that I couldnt when I just had one. I had 3 kids and wanted 6. Husband met me half way.

  • Before marriage my husband and I had agreed on two children, but just two weeks after having our daughter we made the decision to stop at one. We felt our family was complete and have never regretted our decision. I know of other couples who didn’t feel their family was complete until they had their second or third child. Hopefully you and your partner will come to an agreement as to what is right for your family.

  • Hard to know without knowing more about your age and personal situation. I’d say you might… But then again, you may know yourself well. I think the critical thing is to be open to circumstances changing.

  • do what is right for you, My sister has 1 child, and I have 3. It is your right to do what you feel comfortable with and it would be better to have 1 and be able to look after it, than have more and struggle. Best wishes

  • You will know if you want more children or not. Don’t let people tell you what you do or don’t want. Talk to your partner about how you feel.

  • There’s every possibility you could change your mind later on, but you could also stick to your guns. It’s not a bad thing, even though many people don’t understand the choice. I have a couple of friends that have just one child and never want anymore. They’re doing ok. Ultimately, you’re the one that has to raise it, so the final decision is yours and yours alone

  • I think everyone is different some people decide on a number and stick to it and others change their mind. I always wanted 2 children always but now they are growing up I want a baby I am very clucky. I won’t have another as financially it will be too hard but I never thought I would want more than 2 yet a part of me does so that’s a really hard question and things do change.

  • That was me a year ago. My daughter who is currently 2 and a half, at times when she would play by herself it made me sad. Watching her reminded me of my siblings and what i had growing up, being able to share stories, laughs, fears having someone protect me. The guilt took over and i since had number 2, and its the best decision of my life

  • My husband and I only have one and I couldn’t imagine life with two. Sometimes I think maybe but then I have a sleepless night and think.. no thanks! Haha

  • My husband and I wanted two children, but after our first we both decided one was enough and we have never regretted our decision.

  • I had such a traumatic pregnancy and birth with our first, surprise package thag i swore never again. 4 years later i changed my mind and my partner came around to it a few months after me. We miscarried and had to terminate a nonviable pregnancy in second trimester and finally got pregnant and had a healthy baby girl (also a traumatic pregnancy and birth). I now cant have any more children as the choice has been taken away from me and while i dont rhink we would ever want a third, i do wonder whether i would have changed my mind 4 years later. This newborn stage is sleep deprived bliss.. i didnt realise how much i enjoy the smell and bonding that happens with a tiny vulnerable little human. And seeing how loving and caring my better half is with our newborn makes me fall in love with him all over again.never say never… i really thought we would only have 1…but i now feel like my family is complete with 2…

  • I am an only child and I have always loved it! I played with my cousins and I love/hate them depending on the day! (Hehe)
    Do what you feel is best.

    Don’t let other people tell you what to do.

  • i think one child is not enough there should be a companion for first one and a sibling is a best companion

  • Hubby and I had decided that 1 was enough for us. Then a week after we settled on the idea….. SURPRISE!!

  • It’s totally yoyr decision…people will have opinions but it is up to you..

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