Today I cried because I realised that this will be the fourth Christmas since my first born had passed away before taking his first breath. I have another two children now but I still feel grief during times of celebration. My children and I went to visit their brother at the cemetery this week and left him a present, and my daughter sung row row row your boat to him. I feel so blessed that I have beautiful children, but I still have sadness in my heart.

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  • I can imagine your pain. I think it’s beautiful you could visit his grave to give expression to your grief. Probably the sadness about his loss will always be there

  • I don’t think you will ever get over something like that. Even if you do have other kids. My nanny died 10 years ago and I miss her every Christmas. I know its not the same, but the grief that someone we love isn’t with us when we are celebrating will always have a place in your heart.

  • My dad and my mother in law, who both passed away. But I also missed my son, daughter, grandson and mum as I didn’t get to see any of them last Christmas

  • For those no longer with us, I’ll be missing my dad and my mother in law. For those still alive who I also will be missing, my mum, my son and grandson.

  • I miss my grandfater so much during times like these. I would do anything to have him back. I also miss my papa because although he is here still physically with us, he has dementia, so he really isnt here anymore

  • The first year following my Mum’s death has to be the saddest Christmas ever for me. As the years come and go the pain lessens a little bit hit home every Christmas and all special family events including birthdays, wedding anniversaries etc.

  • I miss friends and relatives who have passed. They are always in my heart though.

  • We miss my Dad every Christmas. He passed away suddenly when my little one was barely 6 weeks old, and so never got to enjoy a Christmas with her. He would have been such a doting Poppy.

  • I lost my FIL on Christmas Eve and my darling Dad on 4th January – so Christmas and New Year is always a bitter sweet time for me …. these special times never feel the same again once you have lost loved ones around this time, but I try to use these occasions to celebrate their lives, send prayers to them and hope (know) that they are looking down on me with love xx

  • Bless all who feel the pain !

  • My grandma. She passed away this year and Christmas dinner was always at her place. Plus my mum always had her around for Christmas lunch

  • My mum passed away when I was 15 I am in my sixties now and Christmas time is when I miss her the most. I miss watching her make the fruitcake for Christmas and decorate the house- it is the little things.

  • That is the only part of Christmas that is a real problem, so many people seem to miss loved ones the most this time of year. And also those who do not have any family to share with.

  • I will miss my nan and my cat this Christmas

  • My Mum its been 4 years now since she passed away and Christmas is just not the same without her as she always went to so much trouble making everything was perfect

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