My partner and I have been together for just under 10 years. We own a house together and have a family. I call him my partner because we aren’t married, and I feel like we’ve been together for too long and that we’re getting a little too old to call each other boyfriend/girlfriend.
A few months into our relationship we had the talk. House. Kids. Marriage.
We agreed that we wanted to buy our own house first, which we did.
I wanted to get married before having children, he wanted to have kids first. So we had kids.
We’ve both agreed we want to marry each other, we’ve agreed we want a small low key wedding and that neither of us find it necessary to spend lots of money as we would rather put that money towards our home and family. But my partner doesn’t seem to want to take that step and ask the question, despite telling me he wants to marry me.
I do not pressure him, I do not force anything or give ultimatums. We do not ever fight or argue. When myself or our family/friends bring it up he gets uncomfortable and changes the conversation. No matter what anyone says or how hard they try to get him to talk he will not have the conversation.
Our families recently went away on a big trip together, everyone was so sure he was going to do it because he suggested going to the spot where we fell in love. When we went there he avoided me the entire time. Even when I asked him to get a family photo he wouldn’t do it. I knew it wasn’t going to happen so I didn’t have my hopes up like the rest of our family did, but they were extremely shocked and asked him why he hasn’t done it. He said “I haven’t even thought about looking at a ring”.
We recently went to a wedding where our friends wrote his surname for my surname and told him they did it because they think it’s ridiculous he’s waited so long just to legally change my name. He wasn’t happy about it.
He knows that what I want out of it more than anything is to be able to share the same name with my family. We are very much in love, we are best friends and want nothing more than to be together forever. Can anyone explain what could be causing him to not want to ask?
Nobody understands why, even he says he doesn’t know.
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