I would be very upset.
As they are no longer speaking I guess thats the end of the friendship which is understandable as a true friend wount do something like this. So I would go ahead and name my child the selected name.

It’s just a name. But I understand if my friend did that I wouldn’t be happy.

Not a nice person at all. It’s tough choosing a name but then to have it taken away by your supposed best friend is a kick in the guts. I’d personally find another name as I wouldn’t want my daughter to share a name with that ex friends child.

What a jerk. What kind of a person doesn’t that.

If you still like the names, then use them as it won’t mean much anymore now that you and your past best mate are no longer on speaking terms. But I would rub it in to him that you are honoured he has chosen the same names that you thought of. And then say Bye.

I never told anyone my baby’s name I was so nervous, why are friends so cruel sometimes

I’m not so sure the name would be as special now, and it may leave a sour taste in your mouth every time you used it. Having said that, when I was a kid my next door neighbour and my best friend had the same first and last names but weren’t related. My neighbour had a daughter and when we were out there was a competition, the winner had the exact same name as their daughter! Except that their daughter’s second middle name was the other girl’s last name! So as it happens, it’s not that uncommon

I wouldn’t want to be associated with them anymore and, yes, I’d stick with the names that I had chosen even if the other person uses it too. If you do see him again I’d tell him it’s an honour they’ve decided to use the names that you and your partner chose a while ago and, yes you are still going to name your daughter the name you’d chosen first.

It sounds wise not to associate with these people anymore. They don’t respect each other or care about the other couple.

Yes i would use the same name.It is ok to have same name but different children.At school you will find same name kids in one class.

This is exactly why you don’t tell anyone unless you know you’re not having anymore kids and the person you tell while you are pregnant isn’t pregnant

Ooh, this is why you don’t tell anyone. This is a common situation and as a result we chose not to tell anyone.

Not mate-like behaviour.
In his shoes I’d feel similar…i think i’d still use the names I picked – unless on meeting my babies they didnt suit them.
But a ‘mate’ taking both names and then saying I couldnt use them…that’s no mate in my eyes, better off without him.

I have a friend who hadn’t told anyone her baby name, and another friend inadvertently used it a month before she could… she eventually decided to use it anyway, and no-one has any problems.

That’s so unfair of him to do that to you, best keep every name a secret because there are nasty people in the world who do this

Don’t see any problem, many people have the same names, as long as you do not have the same surname then just use the names you chose.

I’d be mad too – more so with this ‘mate’ saying he’s naming his child the exact same first & middle names AND then telling the father he can’t use it!! No way!!! That’s just not on.
Yes lots of kids have the same name. And it is no issue. But to take both the first and middle name – what nerve of him.
I think the father and mum should keep and should name their daughter what they had planned – as it was a first & middle name they’d thought a lot about, picked and obviously meant a lot to them. And given they’re not friends anymore then their kids won’t know each other.
And the friendship – yeah it’d be gone if it were me too. Not so much about kids having the same name – but the ‘mate’ having the nerve to say he’s using both names & then saying the father who had shared the names can’t use them cos his kid is being born first.
Petty people & people who don’t think about others, I don’t need in my life, so the friendship would be over with me as well.
All the best and congrats on having twins!

I would just use the same names I’d picked and tell people that I chose them first and he stole them.

I would still name my baby the name I loved and picked for my child. You may not be friends now but how silly to fall out over this. Your children may have the same name so what! My best friend I went to school with has the same name as me we are still friends. Kids go to pre school and school and have classmates with the same name. It will all work out in the long run!

obviously the friend couldnt think for himself to copy the name and the reason was pathetic. Definately dont need friends like that in your life