The first time? sure, easy mistake. But the second time? No way. This guy is being weird and just reading about it makes me uncomfortable.

I think it’s a bit weird and would make me uncomfortable.

Hmmmm, I dont think I’d feel comfortable with someone around me behaving like that. One solution is to not advertise the items that contain breast milk. If he doesn’t know…….

I wouldnt have called him a pervert but that is definitely weird

It is odd but calling him a pervet, I dunno.

I’d find this a bit weird and probably feel pretty uncomfortable as well but I probably wouldn’t have kicked him out. He’s still your husbands father..

He sure crossed lines and I can understand his responses are annoying you. However your reaction was very strong, that happens, we all overreact sometimes. I would make sure to keep anything you make for your baby from your breast milk out of sight when he comes over

I admit I think it’s a tad gross and weird of your FIL, but also think your reaction is probably a tad over the top.

I’d make sure they were never around when he turned up. If he arrived unannounced I’d pack them away immediately and not let him see them. I’d feel uncomfortable if my FIL ate something I’d made for my children. He’s definitely one wackadoodle.

Odd on his behalf and overreaction on yours. I would mention it again calmly or actually just don’t discuss it again – why do people need to know your babies food contains breastmilk

I’d put it down to curiosity, but I think I’d feel weirded out with the whole Facebook message about wanting to try the pops and having the emoji. I think you probably should have kept your husband updated and asked him to keep an eye on his dad instead of blowing up like that! I guess it’s good that you are looking after yourself and not hiding behind your husband

It was rude of him to have it when you said not too. Its also a little gross but it was his choice. Its weird but it escalated beyond necessary i think

Yes, it’s weird, but I don’t think I’d go as far as “pervert”. Maybe he was just curious. Although, as a separate issue, it was rude for him to eat something in your house that you’d asked him not to.

This is very odd and I am not sure I would feel great about this if I was in her situation. Sounds a bit creepy and gross to me.

Yeah, it’s a bit weird but doesn’t mean he’s a pervert. Don’t flatter yourself love. Many men are fascinated with breast milk and no real harm was done. That’s a huge overreaction that really didn’t need to go so far. No one is called a creepy pervert when they drink a cow’s breast milk!

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  Yes that’s true, most of world’s population is drinking cow’s breast milk and is not considered to be creepy or a pervert !

… super weird, unsure how to comment on this one

WEll I dont think I would feel very comfortable around him but I wouldnt have been rude to him. I might have told him that I was not happy and felt he was crossing boundaries.

I do think it’s very wrong of you fil but you need to take certain steps too. Keep the baby stuff away from his as much as possible and make you expectations clear to everyone at all times

Perhaps the person who is odd here is you. I have never heard of a 7-month-old baby eating a popsicle or muffin no matter what it is made of. If you are trying to wean then you shouldn’t still be pumping milk and keeping your milk supply going and babies in my opinion usually wean themselves off breast milk because of the diminishing supply.

I don’t see what all the fuss is about. So you put a bit of breast milk instead of cow’s milk in the muffin and he ate one, so what. Regarding the popsicles, he was probably just trying to be funny. I think you might be reading too much into all of it.