I dont think that this is something that he should be pushing you to attend. Yes this baby will be your sibling and thats just the way it is but you should not be forced to be there. Just remember though that its not the childs fault.

Wow I think its wrong

The only immature one here that I can see is the father (if you can call him that). I’m sure it would have hurt but been easier if he’d divorced first before finding someone else. Why should she have to go to the gender reveal party if she doesn’t want to.

Why isn’t the 16 year old allowed to have an opinion and voice it?

I think it’s about time the father grew up and acted his age. You have every right to do as you think fit and not go if you don’t want to.

A gender reveal is not about the baby. It’s all about the parents. Tell your Dad you’ll be there for Bub when he/she arrives, in the meantime tell him you won’t be playing happy families until he works on repairing the damage he’s already caused his child.

I wouldnt be able to accept this either. I think its going to be a personal choice for everyone on weather you accept them as a sibling or not. The fact he had an affair and has a baby out of it means that he had no consideration of the family he had so why should they be considerate now of his situation.

This is a hard situation for anyone let alone a teenager.

Totally understand if not ready to accept and adjust to everything that has happened. It’s going to take a lot of time and forgiveness before one would be okay to be involved in this half family.

I can totally relate to this story in some ways. My Dad had an affair rather than leave my Mum and it seriously impacted my life from the age of 14 when I found out until my Dad passed 12 years later. This young girl should not be made to accept this new life of her Dad’s or the baby. She is entitled to her feelings and given time, in her own time she may change her views. Let her have this space.

If she doesn’t want to go that it. It’s not immature, for her to feel as she does, it’s understandable.

That is a lot to go through for a young girl. She will feel differently about her half sibling when she or he arrives (I hope). She shouldn’t be made to go to the gender reveal. Her dad is very selfish and I think he is the immature one.

That is some bug news the poor girl has had to take in, she has every right to be angry and refuse to go to the baby reveal. Over time thing may change for her, but right now she is hurting and needs to be supported not called immature. Stick to you guns gorgeous girl.

She has been so hurt by the affair and now the pending baby. I feel he has a nerve to even ask, let alone think she will go. He needs to stop been so selfish. Good on her for standing up to her true beliefs. Very mature for her age. Also her Mother is a great example for her.

Her anger is understandable, her dad ruined her family. But that is no fault of the baby. I feel there may be a time when the poster wants to get to know her little brother or sister. And i can’t help but feel sorry for the baby, not even born yet and has someone hating it. And how sad, that when old enough to ask why my big sister doesn’t want anything to do with me, it’s because of circumstances surrounding his/her existence. The dad is pretty much the only a$$hole in all this. I can’t say if she should attend the gender reveal or not, but I strongly suggest not hating the baby or calling it an affair baby. That’s just sad

By no means are you the a$$hole here. You are entitled to feel betrayed yourself, this just hasn’t affected your mum but it’s affected you too. You are apart of everything that has happened, therefore are entitled to the way you feel

Dad calls her immature…erm hello, she IS immature -she’s 16 and still a kid. The person who needs to be more adult is the adult here, the dad!!! He is the a-hole! that aside, he’s being a bit presumptive expecting his teenage daughter to be up for playing happy families immediately – hopefully in the future once bub has arrived they will have a relationship , but whining to her mum about her is not the answer. The dad hasnt thought about how he is basically replacing one daughter for another, and that good relationships happen over time, not on demand.
Also, i so agree with the person who commented: how you feel is how you feel, if you dont want to attend the gender reveal, you absolutely dont have to.

No, you’re definitely not the a#$hole and it’s completely understandable that you would feel hurt and angry. Your dad needs to understand that actions have consequences and not everyone is going to be forgiving of them Having said that, it’s not the babies fault and it will be your sibling so it’s probably not fair of you to reject someone that’s innocent in the whole situation.

It’s a very difficult thing. I can completely understand, however, once the baby is born it would probably be a good thing for her to try and have a relationship. Even though what her father did is completely and utterly wrong, it’s not the baby’s fault.

I say, good for you, young lady. I wouldn’t go to the baby shower either. Your father did the wrong thing to you, your mother, and your siblings. You keep standing on your principles and as far as I am concerned your actions show the decency and respect you have for your mother and your wellbeing. Don’t give up or give in! Remain strong and I applaud and celebrate your feelings and decision not to go and celebrate.