WOW……I would seek legal advice but 100% agree that you shpould not kist be a money giver. Of you are paying then you need to be able to saee the child and have shared access.

Start a private account for him for when his twenty one.
If they just want financial gain without allowing you to have your rights for visitation is disgusting.

I think the father is doing the right thing, offering child support and should have every right to have visitation rights to see his son.

I know so many in this situation…

Wow that is difficult situation. How about putting money on the account for the son to use when he will he old enough?

Sucks but is in child’s best interest

It sounds like Jane and Ted have only reached out now for the money side of it. I think he should let his lawyers know what he wants and let the lawyers sort it out for him. These are definitely people I wouldn’t want in my life. I hope everything gets sorted out for you.

They survived this long without any financial input from the biological father so they can survive until the boy reaches out to his dad! What absolutely selfish people to keep the baby from his father and vice versa. I think the dad’s plan to start a savings fund for his son is probably the best solution here if they won’t allow him any rights. It’s not like he was in the wrong in any of this! I just hope that the future works out well for them! And that he gets to know his son before he hands over the money, because I can see the mum and step dad trying to manipulate the situation… they sound like the type of people who will tell the boy that his dad knew about him all along and refused to acknowledge him or pay any support.

WOW! What a complicated situation. I feel for the real Dad who has been absolutely blindsided. And to the parents raising this little boy, how selfish. To have deprived this son of his Dad, and this Dad of his son, but to now want $ (which the real Dad has agreed to pay) without any of the benefits of being a Dad/parent. The real Dad seems to be such a decent human being who has been done over at every turn. I do hope he manages to work this out in the way that best suits him and his son. Saving $ for when is son is an adult, is a great idea; shows love and support. And one day, his son will know the full story.

Oh dear, what a predicament. Jane and Ted seem like people you wouldn’t want in your life. I think this guy is trying to do the right thing and wants to do the right thing. But Jane and Ted just want him round for financial benefit.

Such a difficult situation, and so personal

Good on him for giving them terms and conditions. I would put the money into an account for him that only the big can touch once he’s 18

wow I would just put it in a savings account for the kid and give it to him when he is old enough, how awkward for this little boy so far down the track to go from thinking Ted was his dad to finding out a complete stranger is -

I respect that he’s willing to pay child support and be apart of the child’s life.. Both cheaters, absolute lowlives and to wait five years, disgusting!

The father of the son is absolutely right, you can’t keep the cake and eat it too. He should ge t all the rights of a father if he will contribute financially.

They can’t expect child support and refuse any parental contact in this situation.

It is great to read that the biological father wants to step up and not only support financially, but also be a part of the child’s life. While this is not the outcome that Jane and Ted were hoping for I hope they can work through it for the child’s sake

Jane & Ted are selfish and using the child as a cash grab. How dare they keep the child a secret for so long, only to bring him up when they see they might get something out of it. They don’t deserve the child if thats the way they behave. Also I believe the father is 100% correct in requesting visitation if he is going to support the child. I don’t think it’s petty. The fact that he is willing to set up an account for the Childs future if they don’t allow visitation proves that he is a decent person

Jane should have thought about the implications before she reached out to him as the biological Dad. Jane and Ted had previously decided to raise him as Ted’s, but once they saw that he had financial abilities to pay, they only wanted the financial gain, and not gain him as a Dad. That isn’t fair for either the biological Dad, or the child. He has missed out on a lot seeing his son grow up, and he shouldn’t be penalised for the decision they made without him.

He has a right to meet his son and be involved in his life. He is right to withhold any child support until this happens