Not acceptable to favour one child over another.

I agree completely with this mother. I watched my mother treat my grandchildren in a similar way and it does hurt the grandchildren horribly. Their great grandmother would come round with a card with $50 in it for her great grandson, but would ‘forget’ her younger granddaughter. So terrible and she couldn’t see reason. Wish you luck with the ban – she used to drop off a card or post it just to the boy and never anything to the girl once she was ‘asked’ to not call in any more.

If one child is being ignored it will not be a good outcome in the long run. It’s just not fair.

Wow this is a hard one. Obviously she is protecting her son from being left out but to completely ban the MIL from seeing them seems a bit harsh. The MIL does need to be spoken to about the situation, something needs to be resolved, so the kids don’t miss out on seeing gma

This just seems so mean to me. How could you so obviously favour one child over another it’s definitely not right.

I agree with this mum, you wouldn’t accept this behaviour from a stranger let alone a relative. The fact that she voices her bizarre opinion on spoiling one child over makes me think she will never see the light with her thinking. Your children do not rely on her for their happiness, they will fare much better with loving parents who do not differentiate. Good job Mum and Dad.

I don’t blame her! My in laws live in another state with their two other grand kids. One year they invited themselves, my SIL and her two children (then aged 6 and almost 9) to spend Christmas with us and stay in our house (uninvited!) for a month! They flew the grandkids over, got them everything on their list to Santa and filled their stocking to the brim, plus got them extravagant gifts! My two aged 3 and almost 1 got nothing like that! My 1 year old got a small fire engine that was part of a larger set and an oops forgot to bring the outfit we bought, we will send it when we get home (they didn’t) my 3 year old got knickers and a t-shirt which came with stickers, plus a doll we purchased on their behalf. That was it! Nothing from Santa, nothing for their stockings (not even the bubbles the cousins got). The 1 year old and 9 year old share a birthday. 1 year old got a shared family gift from all of them. 9 year old got lots of gifts! Another time they were here I did a in home toy demonstration. My MIL was sooo intent on buying something to take back for her other grandkids but when my husband and I were trying to work out which of the toys we were looking at to get and which to leave there was nothing from them … even though it was only a week till my eldest child’s birthday!
I’d love to cut all ties with them. Especially as they NEVER listen, my MIL makes snide comments, and even said something unforgivable, my husband just thinks I am the one with the problem and won’t cut his (now only) mum out of our lives because she doesn’t mean what she says to come out the way it sounds (but I obviously ALWAYS do!)

You are not in the wrong. Your mil is being horrible to your son by doing this & it could cause long term emotional damage to your son. It is up to you to protect your children & do what is best for your family.

That’s fair how this mom reacted to the situation. All grandchildren should be treated equally. It’s a shame though that the MIL won’t have a relationship with her grandchildren but that’s from her own fault. Glad the husband has been supportive too

This mum is definitely in the right! So rude of the MIL to treat the siblings so unfairly

I completely agree with the mum’s decision. The MIL is being very hurtful in playing favourites and looks as though she was doing it long before the granddaughter arrived with her other grandchildren. She needs to be pulled into line.

I don’t think you are doing anything wrong and I’m glad to see your husband (her son) agrees with you. If you ask me, they are all being a******s to think you should put her feelings before your sons. Wonder how they’d feel if it was done to them. If you ask me, your children will be better off not having anything to do with a witch like her.

No, you do what’s right for your family. We have nothing to do with our in-laws because of safety concerns and emotional abuse and I do not feel guilty. He’s now old enough to understand it and although we hid it from him, it’s amazing what he observed and was aware of. MIL’s behaviour is terrible. Oftentimes I do find MIL’s behave differently than with their own daughter, but grandkids should all be treated the same.

My sisters children were subjected to this type of affection, they are now adults and it has left them with emotional scars. You are doing the right thing when they are older they can forge a relationship on their own terms,

My MIL treats all her other grandkids much better than mine and also favoured one of my girls over the other but my mother loves my girls to death, so I didn’t really care. I wouldn’t never stop my MIL from visiting though.

Wow that’s so bizzar

What is wrong with your husband he should be saying to treat the grandchildren equal, my mother was like that with the boys liked only girls but never bought a present for one and not the other that is down right mean. She owes you an appology and until she treats him better then she doesn’t visit.

You are not that name tag at all dear heart. I say, good for you. If I were in the same position as you, I would do the same thing. I am a grandmother of five. Four girls and a brand new grandson.. I have always treated them equally and if I can’t do for one, I won’t do for the other. I always treated my children that way as well. I congratulate you and support your decision. What your MIL is doing is segregative and she will cause problems in the future. And, what she doesn’t realise is that your son, as he grows and sees what she does will not be interested in her for what she is doing. So, hold your head high, you have the support of your son, and know that you have acted with wisdom and fairness for both your daughter and your son. God bless and enjoy your children and until your MIL sees the error of her ways and changes her ways, then maybe she might get to have that special relationship with both of your children. All the best to you, your husband, and your beloved children.

I think she did the right thing.
Her mother in law is a rude cow for calling her the B word.
Imagine how you would feel if you were the son watching everyone else around you getting treated like royalty and you’re just ignored. NO WAY!!! The poor little bugger would be questioning what he did wrong.
My mother in law is sort of similar. She has 18 grandchildren. We are the last out of the kids to have kids and one of the kids has had a baby and is onto number two so we don’t really rank anywhere in her agenda.
I mean she’s nice enough but she never visits unless one of my hubbies sisters is coming over then she’ll sometimes tag along.

It’s a catch 22. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. It’s definitely a hard, I can’t relate to most of it, but at the end of the day you need to do what’s right for the kids.