A new mum admits ‘looks awful’ after having her first baby, and doesn’t understand why.
She’s taken to a forum to ask other mums if they also experienced the same thing after giving birth.
“I used to be attractive,” she explained.
“Not mind-blowingly gorgeous but I felt attractive and had attention, I would get dates easily. Men were interested. I left the house feeling like I looked good.”
But since having her baby, the new mum says she doesn’t look the same, and no matter what she does, can’t get back to how she used to look.
“I have an 18 month old. She sleeps so it’s not about lack of sleep. But I look awful!
“Honestly, my hair won’t take dye properly anymore, even at salons it comes out looking the same and still dull.
“My skin is darker with more brown patches. My make up won’t go on nicely. My face looks smaller but also saggier. Literally months before i was pregnant I look entirely different. I could make myself look good.
“I look sh*t now no matter what I do? Why?! Surely it’s not just childbirth?”
The mum was met with hundreds of comments, reassuring her that it’s a very common feeling after going through pregnancy.
“I have a 21 month old and I’m 100% certain that I never used to look this haggard and sh*t. I’ve always been pale skinned but f*ck me I look like a bloody vampire now. And after little one being a terrible sleeper for the first year I just can’t seem to shift that look of absolute exhaustion even though he sleeps through the night now. I’m 37 and I’m pretty sure I look about 100,” one mum commented.
Another sympathised: “It’s not childbirth, it’s pregnancy. When they say your body is never the same again, they don’t just mean the size of it. I have three kids and the first gave me continence issues, the second gave me an autoimmune disease and the third one took my looks.”
“I think it’s partly the contrast with pregnancy hair/nails/skin and postpartum, and the cumulative effect of sleep deprivation. I am 2.5 years in with a non-sleeper and I look f*cking dreadful. I have thrown money at the problem with dental work, Botox, highlights and regular eyebrow waxing. I’m fat too but I can’t bring myself to do anything about that beyond a twice a week slow jog. It’s sh*t and demoralising but I figure everyone ends up looking old eventually, it’s about just trying to look the best you can given your age and stage,” another mum said.
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Ellen replied
- 02 Jul 2024 , 9:02 am
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