Maybe focus more on gratitude – you have a beautiful child whom is as normal as possible.

Our daughter is 5 and I’m still coming to terms with the new me. Focus on your health, are you eating well, stressing a little as you possibly can? I totally feel everything this mum is saying, it’s a change of mindset and the need for a new realisation. On the upside, I care way less about what other people think of me – I am only focussed on how I feel about myself so that is totally refreshing. Less maintenance required but more inner work to get through!

Shift the focus to that gorgeous baby and stop worrying.

I went through an adjustment in terms of how I looked, questioning what I should wear. My body has changed. I really did feel and look different.

Pregnancy truely changes you and your body thats for sure – nothing is the same after that

It’s partly about just feeling and looking “different” to before. You’ll get used to it.

I hadn’t noticed such drastic problems after having my babies. Maybe you’re just focusing on it too much

No you are just plain ugly and remember women always shine when they are pregnant

Hormonal changes and lack of sleep will do it. The same will happen when you go through Menopause.

I think having kids definitely ages you. I mean think about the stress your body goes through during pregnancy, it’s only natural. But I also believe it could be confidence issues too.

My body changed during pregnancies and afterwards and I embraced it. I focused on healthy eating and getting out and exercising and socialising to release natural feel good endorphins. Faces and bodies do change as we age and that is part of the cycle.

It takes a while for your body to recover and your hormones to get back in balance indeed.
My best advice would be to go out and enjoy your baby and your partner, your friends and family, the sun, nature and life in general as best as you can. Beauty is more than the looks, it comes from within

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 29 Jun 2024 , 4:47 am

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  I agree; women should not be defined by appearance or even care what others think of their appearance.

It’s partly about the way your body feels too – it’s all different, and it feels subtly wrong. It does improve.

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 28 Jun 2024 , 7:55 am

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  True, it does improve indeed

Having babies change us, all those hormones, weight gain, stress etc. it takes its toll on you that’s for sure.

Fit in a walk – pushing a pram if need be – in the fresh air and preferably around a park or leafy road. It’s amazing what Mother Nature does to heal your mind and your body in her fresh air.

I felt the same, but one day I just let it all go. Stop thinking about how I did look and focussed on embracing my child and rocking motherhood.

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 29 Jun 2024 , 6:14 am

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  That is a good choice for sure !

Aw I sympathize for this mum, it’s hard. For me it’s been breastfeeding that’s complicating the relationship I have with my body. I’m happy it’s gone so well feeding my baby, but my skin is so so dry. My heels are so dehydrated, no amount of moisturizer helps. Hoping to begin weaning soon to feel like me again. Happy mum = happy kids.

I totally understand as i feel the same. I do not have any advice as i am struggling myself. My body is different and has never gone back to a point where i am happy. I no longer love myself and feel happy in myself like i use to pre baby. I think it is because i have a little human to look after as well as a full time job and a home to maintain. I don’t have as much free time to look after myself. My hair is always up in a bun because i am lucky to get 10 minutes to get ready in the mornings in between sorting my daughter. It is hard but i hope as my daughter gets older, I will start to have more time for me.