Wow what a tough situation, I don’t know if throwing him out is going to help the situation. Give him chores to do everyday to make up for the $800 You can only hope that once he matures he will appreciate all that you have done for him.

What’s with teenagers these days? They have absolutely no respect for their parents.
If he wants to stay living with you I’d be putting down some strict rules. Make him help around the house, make him work at Coles until he lands another apprenticeship, make him catch the bus to work, make him get help to get off the drugs, don’t let his friends over and don’t let him out at certain times.
His father needs to step in and lay some rules too.

Oh dear, this is such a difficult situation.! I don’t think I could ever throw my daughter out but then again I’m not going through what she is.

I think some professional counselling is needed. I would feel the same way but I wouldn’t want to give up on him, sounds like he needs yes tough love but still love and support.

Ooooooooooo, a bit of tough love. It’ll be hard, but it could help

I understand your frustration, but think you’d regret it n the long run.

I am so sorry you’re going through this. You need professional help for yourself and your son. This mist be heartbreaking for you.

I would be trying to get him into a refuge as a first step, but at his age I think he will be considered sufficiently an adult to make up his own mind. Give him some options of where to go and then I would try to have a life of your own. It sounds harsh, but he is what he has become and only he can turn that around.

That’s a hard call to make. Sometimes it can make them pull their heads in, but then it could backfire

Oooo, such a tough one! It’d be hard, but I think you’ve got no other choice. Kicking him out might be the wake up call he needs. Dr Phil calls it tough love which is proffered over being an ‘enabler’

Kicking him out might make him more distant, most hospitals will be able to provide support details to assist you.

Teenagers ask so much of us sometimes. I understand how you feel, but you may regret it in the long run if you do throw him out.

Doesn’t sound like a good situation to be in. Kicking him out isn’t going to help, but I thinks some professional help may be needed and some support groups to help.

I think kicking him out is going to make matters much worse. Sounds like you both need extra support. So sorry to hear you are going through this, but please don’t kick him out. Love always wins in the end.

I haven’t been in your shoes so it’s hard to comment, but I would most likely be trying to help him get back on track before his life spirals further out of control.

There are refuges & programs for youth in need. Unfortunately at that age your say is not going to determine his decisions. Sometimes you find yourself just enabling the bad behaviour rather than aiding a recovery. Also, regardless of being your child; your home should be your sanctum. Not a source of fear or upset. You’re between a hard place & a rock right now. Take some time to calm down & make a decision then. Best of luck little mumma. I hope it works out for you both, down the line.

I think you both need to get help. He needs help with his addictions and you need help showing you what you can do to help you both. It’s a very sticky situation especially since he’s stealing from you. Would his Dad be willing to take him in for a while to give you a break?

I hear you. I have moments of similar temptation. HOwever, I don’t think it would help either of you. Can you get some professional help from an organisation used to dealing with troubled teens?

Please don’t kick him out. He is clearly struggling and needs to know someone loves and cares for him. It’s natural for teenagers to have rebelious behaviour and even more so if they struggle with mental health issues and divorced parents. He needs a psychologist and some professional help. If he had underlying mental health issues, the drug use and video games is just a way he’s learnt how to cope. He needs to know you’ll be there for him no matter what and help him get better. If he doesn’t have that he’ll never get better.
My brother is similar. He turned to drugs and video games. Mum almost kicked him out but chose to get him extra help and be that reassuring love. He now is a manager at a pizza shop (started off just cooking) and his video games and drug use are at a very minimum. They do get better with more love and care. If mum had of kicked him out, he would be dead of an overdose. Please don’t give up on your son!

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  • • Ellen replied
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  I agree, keep on loving on him, it could safe his life.

It sounds like he really didnt grow up in a normal household. Divorce irreparably damages a child.
Your reasons for wanting to kick him out sound poor. He cost you money? Surely the crime is worse? It is a very confusing post.