Not unreasonable at all. Stick to your guns, your bubs health comes first, always and if anyone doesn’t understand/accept that, they miss out.

My husband had whooping coughing, and he passed out from lack of oxygen… why on earth would you not want to get vaxed as a grandparent to protect a baby.
Wow, that is a very harsh comment from the grandparents to their own daughter. It’s meant to be a joyful event and they are ruining it for her.
As a mother, you do anything to protect your child. I ???? agree with the first time mum to want close family immunised against whooping cough.

They sound completely toxic. They’re being totally irrational and selfish. It’s recommended by all health professionals that everyone get vaccinated against whooping cough before visiting a newborn. If they really care, a little prick in the arm won’t stop them.

The tone, attitude and words from these parents towards their daughter is not respectful nor considerate. I wouldn’t like to welcome my parents in my house either when they would behave like this.

When my daughter was pregnant she asked us to do this and we didn’t hesitate but there was some hesitation from his side and she stood her ground and they got vaccinated. Even her autistic sister who is petrified of needles agreed to have it for the sake of the baby. The problem is people think they won’t get it or be a carrier but wouldn’t you want to be safe. I couldn’t imagine the guilt I would feel if I did something to put any baby or child in any harms way.

Wow what a hard decision to make.

As someone who has stage 4 endometriosis and is struggling to conceive I agree with your parents we’re also unsupportive with my IVF journey so all I can say to you is to take care of you and your new family if your parents can’t give you the love and support you need then they don’t deserve to have the privilege of being in yours
You have to look out for you and your baby and feel safe emotionally

I’m a grandmother and was more than happy to have my whooping cough booster shot. Maybe show them info and pics of what can happen to a little one if the contract it. Your baby’s safety is priority and you do what you have to to keep him/her safe.

A very touching topic indeed. Had to be in their position. I was very close to my parents whilst alive, and I respected and valued their views. We always compromise and came up with a solution for all of us. Key is communication.

I don’t blame this mum at all for not allowing her parents to visit, they sound like awful, toxic and selfish people.
Whooping cough is no joke and can kill newborns.
If her parents don’t want to get the whooping cough vaccine then that’s their choice but they need to respect their daughter’s choices when it comes to how she decides to protect her baby. And by the sounds of it, just respect their daughter in general ????

It is your baby, your life, your decision. The young mum-to-be needs to stand her ground. She is making decisions that she feels is best for the new baby, and it’s not up to her parents to dis-respect them, to the extent that they say they will just visit anyway. If they don’t want the Whooping Cough vaccine, so be it, just stay away until the time is right for visits.

Parents can be quite rude and toxic sometimes because they think it’s their right but really it’s the mothers choice.
If she doesn’t want unvaxxed people around her newborn then that’s her choice and people should respect it.
They can always come and visit when it’s older!

Some boundaries definitely need to be put in place. The parents sounds like they can be a bit toxic.

Ask for vaccines do the research ask for the safety studies on the whopping cough vaccine on pregnant women, what are the the risks? Look at the safety studies.
People who are immunised can still catch it. Some vaccines are actually live and contain part of the live virus meaning they can spread it from being vaccinated in the first week of getting the shot.

All vaccines have risks. No one should ever feel forced or pressured to have a medical procedure. They also don’t stop transmission and people who are “immunised” can still catch it.. not allowing people to see a child because of medical status to me is nuts. Someone’s medical choices should be private. I’d prefer unvaccinated people around my child because some vaccines are actually live and contain part of the live virus meaning they can spread it from being vaccinated. Have you looked at the 9 pages of recorded side effects just released from the Pfizer vaccine data they didn’t want to release for 75 years but were forced to by court? Although it’s a different product it shows vaccine companies cannot be trusted when they say something is safe and effective.

If her parents are really that awful I doubt they will be super interested in the baby. She may enjoy a bit of drama free time when they won’t be welcome to come around while she recuperates anyway!

As with any vaccination, it doesn’t stop the vaccinated person transferring the disease to someone else. I would definitely ask everyone to not kiss their newborn as you can transfer herpes if you have it in your mouth and it can be really bad for the baby.

Totally fair enough, I would have done the same.

Baby’s are just so vunerable to so much. Mumma has the right to be her baby’s advocate: anyone that Dosent agree has made their own choice

I am completely on her side. Keep unvaccinated people away: it could save your baby’s life.

There is no way that I would let them see your baby! Keep your baby safe. x