Cartainly not like the picture where you would treat your children so differently.
Its pretty normal to have a child that you understand better or that you identify with but not one that you love more.

Never. Never. Never. Never. Never.

No I don’t think it is fine to have a favourite as the others would pick up on it and I saw in my sisters children she had one and it was so obvious and this child caused my sister to break up with her long time boyfriend after they moved into a house they were building and my sister could not see it was because of this spoilt brat that caused it.

My youngest is my fav (for now lol). I love all my children equally but I have days where I favour one over the others. My youngest also reminds me a lot of myself as a kid & we just have this bond. My husband has a different kind of bond with my middle child as he is a middle child as well.

It’s not ok to voice it aloud but I’m sure many parents have a favourite child. I don’t have a favourite but one of my daughters is so much easier to get along with than the other.

Omg no its never ok to have a favourite. I love all my kids equally. I have been very lucky to have large gaps between them so have been able to spoil each. In saying that whatever * did for the first I did for the last. One day the oldest said 6ou never did that for me and I told him I did, came back later an said yes you did I remember. Kids feel terrible when they are singled out by being favourite. My mother terrible always has a favourite even with friends kids. It’s so wrong.

Yes, I have a favourite child and they alternate each day lol. It depends who behaves the most.
I think the article suggest to what personalities get along easier/better

I love them all equally. They are all different

I think like the article suggests you get along better sure to personality

I honestly don’t have a favourite child. My boys are special in many different ways which makes them both perfect for me. My late husband and I did have a favourite granddaughter though they never knew it then and they will never know. My grandson is a definite favourite but that’s only because he is so much like my husband it’s uncanny. I think you can have a favourite but you should never ever let them know. I was the middle child in my family and I was always told that. Funny thing though, when my Mum needed someone or something I was the one who had to sort it out for her.

My parents would deny having a favourite. I think I was my dads favourite tho, I was the first born daughter after 5 boys, he often said how happy he was when I was born. My brother is my mums favourite. I think because she had to give up 1 son, when she had another, she loved him enough for 2

This is very clear. Every mum wants less troubles from kids.

I have 3 children and I can honestly say that I do not have a favourite. They are all so different and I love them all the same.

I have an only child, so he is clearly our favourite. However, having grown up with 3 siblings, I do feel it is never okay to have a favourite child. It happens, it happened in our family with the oldest and youngest, and my psychologist bills prove the impact it had on me. So no, it’s not okay.

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  • • Ellen replied
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  Sorry to hear you’ve experienced this rovermum ! xx

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    • • Ellen replied
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    And I agree, it’s totally not okay !

This completely makes sense. You have a preference depending on the activity and I honestly agree.

I think most parents won’t admit to having a favourite because they think it means they don’t love all their kids the same. As this article explains, it’s not about who you love the most, it’s who you resonate with the most. I enjoy time with both kids for different things

More common that you think I recon

I only have one child of my own. I also have a step-son who was 12 when hubby and I got together. Of course my biological child is my favourite, she was only 6 months old when hubby and I got together, but I love my step-son too. I think he understands that his step-sister is my favourite, although I don’t treat them any differently as they are both adults now. We really only had him with us during school holidays and such when he was growing up so it is a bit different I suppose.

I will add that I was not my mother’s favourite and she showed me everyday that my brother was her baby and her favourite. She constantly let me know that I was “less than” in her eyes and it is something that has affected my mental health most of my life. We all probably have favourites if we are honest, but we need to treat our children the same regardless. No child should ever be made to feel “less than”.

Even if you have a favourite, your children should never hear it. My husband only has a sister & his parents never tried to hide the fact that she was the favourite and it has scared him deeply. It still affects him at 43, especially now that his father has passed & he is left questioning if he was even his biological father because of it. His mother has also hinted at having a favourite grandchild out of our three children, which I will never understand

I have something different with each of my children. We’ve biological children and 2 foster children adopted into our family who both have special needs. One of them shows lots of disrespect, manipulation, calculation and steals and lies frequently.
I have come to the opinion that love doesn’t have to be a feel from your heart but is a DECISION you make with your HEAD and your heart will follow.