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A parent has been called an ‘a**hole’ by a fellow shopper, after they let their son help out with the grocery shopping.

The parent says they took their seven-year-old son to the supermarket, and allowed him to help at the self-service checkout, because they’re a ‘big believer in learning by doing’.

“I like to give my son as interactive a role in things as possible, and if he wants to do something himself I always at least let him try unless it’s unsafe,” the parent explained on reddit.

“When we got to the self checkout he confidently told me he could do it by himself, so I let him. There are about ten self checkouts and one line for all the machines, so people don’t line up behind individual machines. He was a lot slower than I would have been, but he managed to do it all with my supervision, even the produce.”

But here’s where the situation got tense. It appeared that while it didn’t seem the seven-year-old was holding anyone up, it had annoyed another customer.

“As we started to wheel away, a woman walked up and slammed her grocery basket on the counter. She said, ‘Thanks for doing that as slow as possible, asshole.’

“I thought that was incredibly rude and uncalled for. Some people are slower than others. It is what it is. There were several other machines being used and freed up, so we can’t have made that big an impact on her wait time.

“It was a Sunday, so fairly busy, but there were quite a few machines, and a lot of people wanted to wait in the cashier line. My son and I waited less than five minutes.”

The parent then asked fellow redditors if they are, in fact, an a**hole for allowing their child to help. And opinions were divided.

“You should have let your son help with a few items, not all of them, or taken him at a less busy time so you’re not inconveniencing others.”

“Self checkout as we know it probably won’t even exist when the kid is older. It’s not an essential life skill they have to master at seven. Let the kid do a few things and move it along.”

“The lady is definitely an a**hole for saying that … I usually don’t mind waiting extra time for parents to help kids learn really world tasks. It actually warms my heart to watch kids learning that kind of stuff. But after 10 minutes, I’d probably be getting frustrated, too. Respect for each other in public goes both ways. One party should have some extra patience for a parent handling a child, but the parent should also show respect for the time of the other customers.”

“Yeah, my kid loves doing the self checkout, but I only have him help with scanning if it’s busy (he’s fastest at that) and I do the bagging and paying. You were being rude as hell.”

What do you think? Do you let your kids help at the self-service checkout? Let us know in the comments below.

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  • If there wasn’t really a queue, it shouldn’t have really mattered. Engaging with your child is so important and accidental learning opportunities like these are awesome :)

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  • I don’t think you were the A$$hole, I think you are teaching your child life skills and also keeping them entertained while shopping and they aren’t on an iPad or phone etc. either.

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  • So rude. People cannot seem to wait for anyone. I let my kids help sometimes too, they often scan a few items, pay and carry things themselves.

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  • Some people are just angry and impatient and honestly it says more about them than you. If there was only one check out I could understand the frustration but it still wouldn’t give them a right to speak to you or your son like that.

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  • I think that woman was an a-hole for making that comment. How rude regardless of the situation. There are many other machines in the self-serve checkout and I imagine many of those would have become available. Props to you for teaching your child. I hope he’s learnt how not to be an a-hole too!

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  • We see at times the same type of intolerance towards learner drivers on the road, it’s just not on.

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  • Children need to learn all life skills and people need to have patience and understanding. Parents should be applauded for teaching children life skills and not reprimanded by others. I had a similar experience years ago and gave the person a brisk and to the point look and stern thank you!

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  • Wow that was definitely uncalled for

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  • I don’t use self-checkouts because I am very slow and even with one item, I usually have to get help from the person on duty, and that always takes a long time to get them to come. Your annoyed customer would have a field day with me in front of her. However, even on a Sunday, I have rarely seen all the self-checkouts full with customers, so I doubt she had that much of a wait problem. Sounds more like SOL to me.

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  • I agree with letting the children help put a few things through but it can be a little frustrating if you’re in a hurry and you get held up by parents letting them put everything through.
    The Woman who abused her though should be ashamed of herself as there’s no need for that especially in front of the child!

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  • Of course it’s a good thing to let your child help, this lady is rude

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  • My 9 year old helps me at the self serve checkout. That lady was out of line for speaking in that way in front of a child

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  • I believe in letting kids help if they ask. It’s a great way for them to learn. My daughter likes to help me pick out the fruit and loved sollcting the receipt at the end. I do not see any issues with this and that lady was obviously having a horrible day but should not have taken it out and said what she said to that lady.

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  • Let the child help, it let’s them learn and other people do need to have patience, I would never be cranky at someone for letting their child help that way.

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  • I let my kids help, but if we’re using the self checkout we usually only have four or five items at most, so it doesn’t take much longer than it would take me. I think the lady was unnecessarily rude.

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  • I very very rarely use self checkout ..I am slow and pretty hopeless with technology but could you imagine this woman’s response to me if indeed it was me she followed next. Keep doing what you are doing …helping children learn is very important ..they are our future.

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  • What she said was definitely rude! I let my children help put things on counter and then in the trolley at the cashier. When doing self checkout, ond it’s busy, they do an item or two and i do the rest

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  • I’m the same with my 4yo. If we don’t have a big shop and are there for a top up my son likes to scan the items. Like OP, I believe that allowing my child to actively participate in life, every day processes included, is beneficial to their development. There’s several other registers around, what’s the big deal?

    Definitely NTA here; that incredibly rude patron to the store is so much the A.

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  • I don’t like to use the self serve checkouts, I prefer to wait in line for the cashier because I know how slow I can be. Saying that, I wouldn’t have had a hissy fit if someone was taking a while to scan their products and her son was helping and learning at the same time. I think that lady needed to go home and take a chill pill.

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  • How rude. Some people just need to keep their mouths shut and be happy someone is teaching their child life skills. I e always aloud my kids to do that as well as place orders a coffee shops, ice cream shops etc… they all need to learn.

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