Tell your second wife to suck it up buttercup! You have every right to be happy and not be lonely BUT you have a responsibility to your children from your first marriage which you should have considered before starting a new relationship and bringing another child into the world. What you SHOULD have done was spoken to a financial adviser about where to put the money so it can’t be misused. That money is THEIR mothers. Man up and tell her that the money is not hers and to keep her grubby hands off of it.

Your first wife earned that money and she wanted it for the children of your marriage. Your current wife is being very unreasonable. If she wants her children to have money, maybe she needs to go to work and put aside some for them.

The current wife is being disrespectful to the memory of the late wife. I hope this man sticks to his promise to his late wife.

Stick to your guns mate, that money is for your 2 kids from your late wife. Make sure it stays like that. Your wife today is not being fair. Im sure they could work out a budget in future to help the stepdaughter to attend these classes. The classes will always be around.

I hope he doesn’t back down.

Well I would understand if ut was some kind of medical emergency. Extra curricular activities should come from their pockets.

Wow! It was left for the two children by their mother. End of story. If they were to inherit something from their maternal grandparents would she expect them to share that as well?

She’s being selfish. Maybe he shouldn’t have told her about the money..
Money makes selfish people more greedy. Maybe start setting aside some money for your other kids now.

Stick to your guns invest it for the children if will never be paid back deep down you both know that set it up and stand your ground you … She could always get a job and say that’s for the younger twos benefit as I’d like to do that for my biological children yours are sorted with their inheritance from their mum … Very sad way to disrespect him and the poor mother who’s passed away

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 20 Sep 2024 , 8:26 am

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  Yes, she could get a job and set money apart herself when she is so desperate that her own children get an equal treatment. The fact she longs for the money of his late wife which is set apart for her children, points to greed and jelousy in my opinion and could damage the relationship with her husband and her stepchildren

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    • • Ellen replied
      • 21 Sep 2024 , 3:21 pm

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    In fact I think that her behaviour not only could throw a wedge between her and her husband, it very well could throw a wedge between the half-siblings and the relationship with their father when they would hear about this disagreement. Reading this article I feel the wife is manipulating and gaslighting her husband, trying to get her way.

I think the husband has every right to safe guard his late wife’s money for the children they had together.. His current wife SHOULD have file for child support of her own daughter from her ex husband through government child support agencies.

The father is in the right here, and his new wife is being very unreasonable. This could split what might have been a very happy marriage.

Wow. The current wife really doesn’t have a leg to stand on here. A) as much as this will sound mean, her children are not his children- even if he sees them as such. B) the money that she wants to use for her children to ‘make life easier’ isn’t his to give. It is the savings of his late wife and it is put aside for their children. If she wants to have something for her children, she should have been better organised and set up a trust fund when they were born (we have done this), so there would be savings to dip into for the kids or to just save for when they come of age. She can’t spend the other children’s inheritance!

I’m with the dad here. That money was his wife’s, it wasn’t half his, she left it to her kids with him. It’s now their money. Stick to your guns dad! And to the new wife’s suggestion of using the money on all 4 kids and saving it up again……that’s just laughable. Instead, why don’t you just save up for the things you want now

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  • • mom78823 replied
    • 19 Sep 2024 , 9:46 am

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  I totally agree. The money is for the children of his late wife only.

The dad is right, his current wife has no right to interfere or give her opinion about that money. It is not hers and none of her business. It is not that the stepdaughter and youngest child are less deserving, it’s that simply that money doesn’t belong to them and it was not left to them either

I’d be putting it locked into bank accounts getting interested for the children. To access at 18. And telling her she is not too mention your first wives money again. As it is not her business

The dad is right. It’s the late wife’s wishes

The dad is definitely doing the right thing. The money belonged to his late wife, and her wishes was for the money to go to her two children. I hope he stands his ground and keeps it that way. And paying for extra curricular for all four kids out of that fund is not an alternative!
It’s the current wife that is being very unreasonable.

I’m with the dad on this. Whether his late wife specifically wanted her money put aside for their children or not, the dad has made the right decision in doing that for their kids future. The new wife and the dad needs to look at what they can do to set up the other kids and covet any extra curricula. Unfortunately though sometimes you can’t do it all

Absolutely not!! Your late wife deserves to have her wishes honoured! Those are her kids and her money, she told you her wishes trusting you would honour them which is likely why there isn’t a will. Don’t break that trust, those are her babies and as a mum knowing I could provide for them at some point after my passing makes me rest easy!! Providing for your new partner’s kids wasn’t on the cards for your late wife!

You are absolutely doing the right thing. It’s not your money to spend!! Stand your ground on this one, after all you have to live with the guilt if you go against the original plans

He is doing the correct thing and honoring her wishes. 2nd wife has no claim to it.