Lack of self-worth: is this the modern day plague of our time?

Every woman that I have come into contact with to date, seems to be affected by what can be described as a ‘lack of self-worth’.

Women frequently share with me their feelings of ‘not being good enough’, ‘feeling like they are not doing enough’, ‘feeling like they are not enough just for who they are’. Women share that they often have thoughts of ‘self-blame’, ‘running themselves down’, being critical of themselves, overdoing things, as well as feelings of having ‘done something wrong’ when other people are upset with them.

I was listening to an audio by Esoteric Women’s Health Founder and Director, Natalie Benhayon the other day, and she described ‘lack of self-worth’ as “the modern day plague”.

In this particular audio Natalie shares, “If there was a disease that we could say almost every woman worldwide suffers, it would be lack of self-worth, aside from the physical ailments and dispositions that they also experience, lack of self-worth would be the modern day plague that affects every woman in society, either throughout their entire life or at least some point in their life.”

Natalie goes on to say “Understanding and truly healing lack of self-worth for women is a very important part of our lives, that we need to explore in a much deeper way than we have thus far been looking at it, as a society.”

In order to be able to do this we first need to recognise that we are in fact suffering from a lack of self-worth and then how this plays out in our life, how ‘lack of self-worth’ affects our thoughts and feelings, and how it impacts on our relationship with ourselves and others.

As women, we freely discuss many aspects of our lives, such as, issues within our relationships, how hard it is to allow ourselves to love or be loved, our lack of trust, our struggle in allowing people to get close to us, being a 24/7 mum and not having any time for ourselves, and so much more.

But as Natalie Benhayon brings to the fore in this powerful audio, underlying all of these issues is a lack of self-worth that we are yet to fully understand and heal, as well as realising that a lack of self-worth is not something we have to live with everyday or even for the rest of our life.

To listen to the entire audio featuring Natalie Benhayon, titled – Lack of Self-Worth: The Modern Day Plague, click here.

What are some of the ways you can recognise this modern day plague of lack of self-worth playing out in your life? Please comment below.

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16 Comments

- - meedee said
  - 26 Jul 2021
    10:48 am
I work with specila needs children and they bring me so much joy and they also make me see my own self worth.

- - ella12 said
  - 30 Aug 2016
    11:27 am
Thank you very much, how interesting.

- - mom70876 said
  - 24 Jul 2016
    8:47 pm
retrospect really is valuable. The author would not have written this in her early 20s or even as a teenager. What you need as a teenager, when you start to become aware of this judgement, is a really good role model.

- - mom160421 said
  - 26 Jun 2016
    4:54 pm
I agree with this article. Many women, especially younger women, suffer from low self-worth. It seems to stem from messages women get from the media/society about how they should look and act. We need parents to instill in their daughters a sense of confidence to make decisions that are in their own best interests and stand by them.

- - BellaB said
  - 31 May 2016
    10:14 am
Having a clear sense of what you want helps.

- - jabelle said
  - 23 May 2016
    1:57 pm
We constantly judge ourselves by what society expects of us. We need to learn to live our own lives for us and stop comparing and competing for what everyone else has or does.

- - mom183717 said
  - 21 May 2016
    3:50 pm
I find many mothers needing to justify their actions to me as another mum. I have no judgement as long as their kids are happy and healthy

- - jodiev1980 said
  - 12 Apr 2016
    1:51 pm
I think that women are so busy nowadays and we really can’t do it all by ourselves. Work, kids, home, friends, hubby – there’s so much on our plate we do feel down when we can’t get it all done.

- - rovermum said
  - 11 Apr 2016
    9:48 am
As my son grows into a teen, I am feeling less needed, less respected, less considered by both my son and husband. It’s something I’m aware of and I’m trying to do more to and for myself so I’m less reliant on what they think and need. They need to know that whilst they can do their own thing, I can too. I don’t always have to be there for them. They need to sort themselves out too, without me.
- Robyn replied
  
  11 Apr 2016 , 9:35 pm
  So very true. Go for it!
- - mom134803 said
  - 09 Apr 2016
    3:16 am
As a child and young adult I clearly lacked self worth as well. I always dreamed to be a different, more pretty person, able do do so much more then I could, always trying to please, always taking every word personal, always trying to be perfect. I became depressed at some point and was in counseling for some years and learned to value who I am.
Personally I think the carrier driven society lays to much emphasis on how we perform and what we achieve. Lots of kids are being bullied these days, there’s too much emphasis on how we look like and many people stick their opinion and judgements every where…
We all have to learn to stuff the clutter in our mind and social circles and take care for ourselves.

- - Missey Grace said
  - 07 Apr 2016
    9:22 pm
When I was young and eager to please, nothing seemed good enough and I struggled. Years gone by I found my true self, and I now know ‘I AM ENOUGH’. The important thing is to be you, and be the best of you – nothing more nothing less. Outside influence only works if you allow it.
- mom93821 replied
  
  08 Apr 2016 , 6:44 am
  Exactly – your comment is spot on – very wise!
- - mom93821 said
  - 03 Apr 2016
    7:19 am
I do not suffer from lack of self worth. I encourage all women to be the best they can be and that means not listening to those negative voices. It means being positive and proactive with your life, family and friends. Negativity achieves absolutely nothing, it goes nowhere. Wishing all mums the best with knowing they are good enough and worth it! Believe in you! 🙂

- - mom101628 said
  - 01 Apr 2016
    9:48 pm
I think it happens to our children as well as us mums. And I believe the culprit is social media!
Everyone is being put down by those who don’t know them and I think men don’t take it to heart like we and our children do. I believe this is the downside of our current technology.
- mom165081 replied
  
  07 Apr 2016 , 9:50 am
  So very well said! Not only this, but we are constantly being informed about how great others are and what they are doing. I have cut some connections for this very reason – and i feel great for doing so.