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July 13, 2020

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It’s OK!

It’s okay to be a working parent.

A single parent.

A part-time parent.

It’s okay to be a stay at home parent.

A co-sleeping parent. A sleep training parent.

It’s okay to miss them. It’s okay to want a break from them.

It’s okay to have your kids in daycare. It’s okay to have a nanny. It’s okay to have grandparents look after them. It’s okay to not go back to work.

Salads are okay. Chicken nuggets are okay. Organic quinoa is okay. Tiny Teddies are okay. TV is okay. Books are okay. Craft is okay. Ignoring them while you Facebook for ten minutes is okay. Eating dinner at the table is okay. Eating in front of the TV is okay.

Re-wearing yesterday’s socks because there are no clean ones is okay. Clean pyjamas every 3 days without fail is okay. Skipping a bath is okay. Dirt is okay. Climbing trees is okay. Pyjama days are okay. Cake for breakfast is okay. Strict hand washing before every meal is okay. Eating organic food is okay. It’s okay to wait ten minutes until you get home to change your kid’s nappy if that’s going to be easier (Hot tip – Little One’s nappies are mega absorbent so your kid won’t even notice!).

Being too tired to parent somedays is okay.

Staring blankly at a wall for ten minutes while your kid flings laundry around the room is okay.

It’s okay to give your kids sugar. It’s okay to not give them sugar. It’s okay to let them stay up late. It’s okay to leave a party early to get them to bed on time.

It’s okay to travel. It’s okay to stay home. It’s okay to holiday with them. It’s okay to holiday without them. It’s okay to cuddle them for hours. It’s okay to want a little bit of space. It’s okay for them to be your whole world. It’s okay to have other things in your life.

It’s okay to worry. And worry. And worry. It’s okay to take a night off and not even miss them.

If your kid is okay, then it’s okay.

Is there anything you always worry about that you know is actually OK? Share in the comments below!

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  • The guilt is real and I don’t think it will ever go away. My daughter’s father isn’t in the picture but she is loved by so many people in her life.

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  • Some days it’s hard but I feel the guilt off a few things the kids not having a 2 parent household why some days I don’t wanna do things because I am feeling down I try some days but it’s hard

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  • Letting go off guilt……something I’m incapable of doing. I still feel guilty about stuff that happened 30 or more years ago.

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  • Everyone has their own parenting style and whilst we don’t always agree on what’s right for kids the first thing to think is are we doing them harm or damage.

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  • It’s ok to find it all to hard and it is ok to ask for help

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  • I worry about screen time, to the point where I’m probably too conservative. Then again, in 20 years I might be proved right.

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  • I struggled leaving my bub with people. The first time I was ever away from her (left the house) was when she was 8 months old and then 0 months. I used to think I was a bad parent if I wasn’t there caring for her andthat others would judge me. Now I’m back at work and after seeing how happy she is at daycare and the activities they do I am more than happy to let others baby sit her.

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  • We believe what we allow our brains to accept is true, so focus on the good :)

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  • Too much TV some days, being a working mum and needing wine at the end of some days. There are too many guilts for too many reasons.. Being mum in a modern world is so bloody hard!

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  • am being pulled in so many directions with so any ball in the air and it hard to know which way to turn next without disappointing someone.

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  • It is so hard!

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  • There’s just some guilt I can’t move past, but everything in that list I’m fine with. And it’s nice to be reminded that everything we do is OK from time to time

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  • Felt guilty for a while – but how wonderful when your children tell you you have been a great mum through the years – all guilty feelings washed away in an instant.

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  • But is it okay for so many other things……………………how do we know? – especially with teenagers?

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  • I feel really positive when reading this article. There were so many things here i worry about everyday life.I always found it ended up when kids ok.

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  • I don’t feel guilt, just worry. Now he’s older it’s drive safely, be careful, watch out for others, be safe. I do get the eye roll, but I explain it’s my job as his Mum to care and worry and that will never change.

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  • I worry about my 2 youngest. I don’t suffer from mums guilt, I do the best I can and there is only so much we can do. There is a limit to our abilities for all of us and that is ok.

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  • I am an elderly mother of 2 and I struggle with not have been the mother my boys wanted. I treated them more like my best friends and that turned out to be 2 spoiled adults.

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  • Looking forward to their bed time when you’ve had a big day at work and you just need so. E. Down time is ok

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  • I have issues with anxiety and my biggest fear is the fear of failure. Now with kids, everything I do or don’t do is judged, I try to do what I can without letting my anxiety completely consume me. Some days are easier than others, and I know some of the things I can do to avoid triggering my anxiety.
    Today was one of those bad days after 2 months of trying hard to improve my anxiety. So I needed this today.
    Even as I type this, my 1 yo is having her 100th tantrum of the day, this time because …. I don’t actually know, she asked for milk, even went to the fridge, tried to talk the milk out, grabbed a cup, but when I gave her a cup of milk proceeded to tantrum. This is not uncommon, and she is such a smart toddler, but as my eldest officially start homeschooling prep next year I’m worried about spreading my time to do everything while also still staying sane.

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