I always put everyone else before me but now that I live on my own and I trying to make sure that I have me time and keep telling myself that I am important too.

I am a single mum, my dad helps me with things around the house and looks after my youngest on the rare occasions I need, otherwise it’s just me.

I didn’t now much about Constance Hall til she was on dancing with the stars, now I happily follow her and actually like what she has to say

I’m so lucky to have a fantastic support network don’t know how anyone does it alone.

Things are so different now. I was lucky with my husband because he always told me that I needed to put myself first. Everything will run smoothly as long as I was

Things have changed so much because of working women – somehow I think it was easier in the older days when the village did help rear the child. Unheard if now as you can’t even tell someone else’s child off or stop them from hurting themselves.

I don’t read much from Constance Hall because her potty mouth puts me off. But I did read this and I agree with her – we do need to prioritise mothers from the back of the heap. I also agree that mums’ definitely need more support from neighbours, friends, communities. It IS a hard gig but it’s a marathon not a sprint, so you do have to have a support team otherwise you’re going to suffer.

As much as I hate Constance hall, at any point the women, her choices and desires are very rarely considered. Constance has clearly made some poor choices and didn’t think much of the consequence though, she’s lazy and doesn’t want to put her kids needs first and asking for an excuse and pardon for her crappy behaviour

I do agree with this. I’m in a much better place now, but I totally agree. We’ve been told we can have it all… but we can’t have it all at once. We then try to live up to an ideal of what we should do. Well, I had PND, I’ve been in therapy and am currently. My son is now 18 and it’s taken me most of this time to now work on myself.

Had a great group of nurses when my babies were premmie. They were always checking in on me, making sure I was ok and asking if they could do anything for me. That continued with the health nurse. She would even offer me a cuppa when I went to see her with my babies.

Completely agree with her

I have great family & friends. I
Don’t see them everyday but know they are there & can always pick up the phone. Every women needs a great network. It does get hard doing it on your own.

I was more overwhelmed with my second as I also had a 7 year old and my partner was no longer in the picture. My parents where very supportive but my in laws wanted nothing to do with us so my poor parents where left with burden from me, god bless them I wouldn’t have survived without them

No I don’t have a supportive village behind me.

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  • • Ellen replied
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  but I do agree with what Constance says here

It’s not easy. And i know when my second arrives i’ll Be overwhelmed too.

It would be great if places such as gyms and other ladies groups had a creche, even if one or two Mums took turns in the creche / playroom each week. Some Mums may not have a relative who is able to mind the baby at all.

Constance is just amazing. Voicing how life really can be for mums.
I feel like a lot of mums hide how hard things are as we are expected to do it all without breaking.
Constance’s posts have gotten me through some shit times

I wish I had people to help me.

Mothers do need to look after themselves and they need the support of their networks.

Every Mum needs a break and people to help her. It’s impossibly to do it alone successfully.