I understand that when looking at the bigger picture what I am about to complain about isn’t actually a big deal- but it’s still really impacting me!
I’ve recently had a baby, which means extra random visits from my mother- who usually only pops by occasionally.
It’s killing me because every time she sees my little ones she insists that they call her “mummy” and she wants them to call me by my first name.
My eldest has severe autism and doesn’t understand what’s going on- to the point where she was able to convince him that she is his real mother. Just typing that makes me want to vomit!
I’ve got an eight year old who is wonderful and questions my mother rather than blindly following her orders- my mother dislikes that child immensely.
Every time I tell my mother how this behaviour makes me feel, that it needs to STOP and how confusing it is for my children, she insists that I am only feeling this way because I have postnatal depression- even though I don’t actually have PND.
I just want to know what’s going on. Am I too sensitive? Has anyone else experienced this sort of nonsense?
It’s not as though I referred to my maternal grandmother as “mummy” or anything close to it! I called her “Nan”.
How can I get myself and especially my children out of this absolutely ridiculous situation?
I mean if all parties felt comfortable with the name a child calls their grandparent that’s fine, but I am not comfortable at all and I feel she is completely crossing the line!!
Posted by someonesmother, 26th October 2020