I would tell her that you appreciate the offer of help but that the answer is a giant NO. I would tell her that you are finding that you are starting to feel pressured. Its wonderful that she loves her granddaughter but she has had her babies and this is your baby and you will look after her. When she is older she will be able to have over night visits but that wont be for quite sometime.
Your husband is going to have to tell his mother in no uncertain terms to stop and back off. Start as you mean to go on.

It’s up to the parents. I must say she is lucky to have someone that will help babysit for her, I never had the option until they were much older and very rarely.

Mil can’t demand this! It’s totally up to the parents. The in laws live close enough to visit regularly, that’s exactly what they should be doing, and all they should be doing

The poor woman the husband needs to stand up. Baby only stays away from Mum overnight when they are both ready and that’s Mums decision full stop.

It sounds like the MIL is immature and manipulative in her relationships. It may be better to set up something that could be special just between her and her new grandchild. Maybe she can be the one that takes her to baby swimming lessons or something similar. That would make the grandma feel special and more a part of her life.

It’s okay for her to offer but not for her to demand. The baby is not hers and she should understand this. Just tell her you need to breastfeed and you can’t express your milk. Hopefully that will work. Frankly her husband should be supporting her about keeping their baby at home with them

This is an awful thing to have to fight both the MIL and her husband over their baby and where she will be spending the night.

I think she has to stand up to her MIL and tell her to back off. Breastfeeding would be a pretty easy excuse – sorry, I need to feed her overnight!

Good way to lose relationships!!

She cannot demand, she can ask. Your child, your choice.

Uh-oh! Red flags a plenty. I have an MIL that we are now estranged from due to safety issues in relation to our son. He is our child and not a possession or pawn in a manipulative game. You need to set boundaries. I tried to appease and make everyone happy… but in the long run it just didn’t work.

The MIL needs to realise that this is her daughter in law first baby and it is all new for her. She needs to wait till her daughter in law is ready to have a night away from her baby. I understand the MIL is excited but she needs to respect her DIL and stop trying to guilt trip her into it. I know when I had my first daughter I didn’t let her sleep over anywhere until she was 12 months. I was breast feeding and it just wasn’t worth it for me. I didn’t want to pump and I didn’t have enough milk to be able to leave her for so long.

I think that’s cute. She is so excited that she wants to help out. How sweet.

I would partially agree to this as I Don’t know the details of realationship I couldn’t make comment or judgement .

Wow – it’s nice that she set up a space especially for her grandchild. But that is way too young for a sleepover! It’s a baby, not a toy. And the baby needs its Mum.

Personally I think she is just excited and thinks she is even helping by offering to have Bub overnight. Your the mum so it’s up to you but at 3 months I was ready to go out for a meal with just hubby and get a full nights sleep! Yes I did miss bubs and wondered how things were but as long as your mother in law is sane and capable I would be ok ???? with this. But once again it’s your child and you know what you are comfortable with.

What a selfish MIL, it is the mother’s choice at all times. Babies need to be near their mother’s that is what is natural. If was an emergency then that is different or you wanted to go out. But do not feel pressured in any circumstances. My teenager has never even slept overnight by himself anywhere because I never left him overnight as a baby or child and now the opportunity has not risen as yet. He loves his own bed.

I am a grandmother, your MIL needs to know her place your husband needs to set the boundaries. If he doesn’t the problems will only get worse.

Just say no. It’s your child and you aren’t obligated to hand them off to anyone before you’re ready. I would also mention that this is your first time being a mum with your baby and you would like to wait until you’re ready before overnight babysitting will happen. If she doesn’t stop then I’d be straight up and tell her to stop asking because it’s adding stress that you don’t need right now.

As a first time relatively new MIL, I would’ve loved to have been more involved with my grandson right from the start. Sadly, distance prevented that. No way would I be demanding anything though. Sounds like this mum is happy for the grandparents to visit as often as they like. Gotta be happy with that