I would be furious with her and with my husband for not confronting his mother over such childish behaviour.
I would be telling him that either he sorts it out or I do and if I am doing it then he needs to support me 100%. I would warn him that I would be going in hard and fast. MIL would be told that her childish behaviour needs to stop and if she is unable to control herself that her ability to visit the child is going to be vastly reduced and that I will make it perfectly clear to the family why this is happening. I have never been about using children but seriously she has been told and continues to act this way. You can point out to your daughter that Gran is a silly and doesnt know how to spell her name correctly. Teach you daughter to spell and write her name and ask her to write a letter to Gran telling her how to spell her name correctly.

Wow this surprises me! I think it is rude. I hate it when people mistype names especially when they know the correct way!

When I told my family what I was going to call my first born Daughter they could not even pronounce it up until this day still the same and she is 21

How petty! Of the mother in law. My kids also had names with different spelling. Rhys is my son, that’s been spelt and mispronounced incorrectly over the years. But not by his loved ones and not on purpose. Hubby needs to make a stand and let her know

What a childish attitude the MIL has …. the child has been named with a certain spelling and she should respect that – not her choice/decision.

There are a lot of ridiculous names out there nowadays and they are spelt whichever way the parent wants. Albeit it may be annoying what the mother in law is doing just persevere as it is no good fracturing the family over a name.

My daughter also has a name with multiple ways of spelling and people will often spell it wrong. It doesn’t bother me because they arent being malicious and I will just correct them with no issues. This woman however IS being malicious, she needs to back off and accept the fact that the kids name is going to be spelled the way the parents see fir. She isnt the parent so she doesnt decide, simple as that. They really need to have it out with her, especially the husband because it is his mother and it could cause more problems if the wife is the most vocal about it.

Oh that’s not very healthy or helpful. Ur kid … Ur spellings ..ur rules..

This is so silly of your MIL to continue to do this. She is being disrespectful to yourself, your husband and your daughter in so many ways. She needs to understand that the spelling of your daughter’s name is not her right to change. I wish you luck in getting her to do the right thing though.

Glad I have a supportive MIL. She isn’t teaching her granddaughter how to respect others.

MIL says it all

Yes because it can be spelled two ways. With an f or ph

How rude and disrespectful to her daughter-in-law, her own son, and grandchild. Curious to know what the name is. This is not okay. Her husband needs to take a stand with his Mum. This child will carry this name for life and the grandmother needs to suck it up.

I’d be interested to know what the name is because if this is one of those instances where they have come up with their own ‘creative’ spelling I don’t blame the grandmother. So many stupid names now.

She sounds like an overly entitled woman with no boundaries. I would let her know that it is not acceptable. She is not the parent and does not get to decide the child’s name or the spelling of it.

She sounds like a very disagreeable woman, I’d personally give her a wide berth for awhile, if hubby wants to go visit let him but without you and the child till she gets the message that it’s you and your husband’s family NOT HERS ! your family your rules simple

Clearly she is bitter and sad and twisted. Just think like that and move on.

I would send the presents back with a note saying “no one at this address by that name”

I’d love to know what the name is

What would your MIL prefer your daughter to call her – Nan, Gran, Grannie, Granma, GranDma – whatever it is, make sure you use the one she doesn’t like and get your daughter to use it too as well as your husband. If that doesn’t stop her nothing will and you’ll just have to let your daughter know how to spell her name your way and make sure she knows it.