Ok so we know that you as the parent have purchased the gift but its not about you. Its a childs birthday party and YOUR child was invited. I would hope that the parent of the child having the party as taught their child to say thank you to your child for the gift.
My kids were taught that when a guest arrives with their gift that you thank them when they give you the gift and then you place the gift on the table to be opened when all the guests have arrived and then as you open each gioft you again thank the person for the gift. At the end of the party as each child leave my kids were taught to hand out little party bags and say thank you for coming. If other children didnt do this at their parties then so be it. I am bringing my children up my way and these are the manners I expect from my children.

i’ve seen both types ..so yeahhh i’ve stopped expecting thank yous but i always thank everyone.

It can be a struggle to organise these things for our children. It is nice to know the amount you need to cater for, I’m a planner.

Only time I’ve heard of people sending thank yous is for engagement parties or weddings.

If you have the time to send personalised messages to each person thats great, I know I personally don’t and a group message would be sent along with a thank you from myself and my child at the time its received. Obviously not everyone is the same, so yeah I think it’s a bit of an overreaction.

I think a thank you at the party is enough. Birthday parties are a major part of childhood and I don’t think we need to add more pressure on ourselves to write thank you notes afterwards for every party

I usually give a thank you for coming when the kids are dropped off or picked up. I don’t think anyone expects a written response

I do give a thankyou note or a call if we didn’t get to thank the person on the day, but if they’re thanked when the child opens the present I think that’s enough. I find keeping track of what was from whom and who needs to be called on behalf of everyone else (moreso with occasions like Christmas, where it’s gifts for multiple people) a bit overwhelming, and think it’s unfair that it tends to fall to mums to do on their own.

I just don’t think it’s that hard to shoot a text saying thanks for coming, thanks for the pressie. I always do it, but few at our school do. Maybe it’s just the way things are now. I’ve been to 2 weddings in recent years where the couple didn’t bother with thank yous for gifts/money either!

I agree with the comments above it’s up to her whether she does it or not but no one else needs to.

ah so many people over react all the time

We make a special point of thanking the parents and child when the present is being handed over. We don’t open presents in front of the other kids but at home.

The children get the thank yous not the party organiser.

When you look to it actually the person who organises the party could do with a thank you and the party guests can do with a thank you for coming, everyone could do with a thank you ! But to make thank you’s as an etiquette and official goes too far. Thank you’s should be spontanious come from the heart, otherwise they’re not worthed a thing.

Ummm…….Isn’t the parents supplying food and games enough of a thank you? Over react much? My daughters always wrote down and since smart phones took photos of what each child gave them to help them remember and also to send a thank you note to each child. There is no lack of acknowledgement. They give you a break from parenting, give your kids food and make sure they have fun and go home with a goodies bag, that should be thanks enough.

I wouldn’t even think to do this. I thank everyone at the party and I think that is suffieicient

I already always so thank you as we are leaving, I also say thank you to the parents for coming and the gift as they are leaving

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  • • becstalou replied
    • 27 Mar 2019 , 12:37 pm

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  This sounds reasonable to me otherwise it can get out of hand.

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    • • Mum2archer replied
      • 30 Apr 2019 , 3:26 pm

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    This is how I do it too!

wow someone needs to get a life, I would prefer them to say thank you as I either hand them the gift or on the way out when I thank them for having my child. Notes are nice but I prefer to hear it at the time because then I feel like I have to send a thankyou note for the thank you note

I think she was definitely over-reacting. My boys used to thank the children for coming and never worried if they didn’t bring a present. They just loved the fact they could have lots of fun with their friends away from school. The present (if there was one) was just a bonus.

Where did the loot bag originate?? Children are often given lollies that for some legitimate reason they are unable to eat (often allergies). I know one child who received a small toy and not so much junk food. The toy was cheap and it was safe.