We never invited children to our wedding. It was a night event and I was very clear on the invite that ‘we regret to advise children were not invited.’ However, had we alluded to inviting the children to come, I certainly would not have retracted the invite. I think she does need to let her brother know her children were disappointed but also be respectful of his choice.

This is just so unbelievable – personally I wouldn’t go to his wedding if I couldn’t take my family.

Very harsh. You can’t get them excited then uninvite them.

I know weddings are expensive theses days but it’s his niece/nephews….
I like the one comment that the uncle should have to tell the kids himself that they are no longer invited…. shouldn’t be on the mum to tell them

If the ceremony is in a public place they can take the children with them to it.
I depends if the children were included in the original written invitation. Most caterers charge the same amount for children as adults. Some parents aren’t responsible in that they let the children run around while the staff are serving food, guests eating and being bumped by them. Even if it is smorgasbord style it would still cost at least $50.00 just for the food. I know of one couple who stated that the parents were responsible for their children.

Agreed, if they were never invited then I guess that is very different to being uninvited!

It’s the uninviting that’s the issue here. That’s harsh. If they had not been invited in the first place, that’s a different story. I can see the long-term division now…

That’s bizarre that he wouldn’t want his nieces and nephews there.

I think, it’s family so they should be allowed to come. I just think I wouldn’t go, well in fact, I couldn’t go because who would look after the kids!!

Each to their own. Our family has always had the no kids at weddings policy. Mine weren’t invited to my brother’s wedding either. I had a great night as did the kids with their cousins who were also not on the guest list

I think child fre is ridiculous. The whole point of getting married is to have a family so why wouldnt all members of a family be invited?

Its a hard one as the kids were told depending on if it was the mother who told the kids or the uncle first you can you usually reason with kids they might be disappointed but they will get over it maybe a comprise and the can go to the ceremony then go home with someone I get it it’s expensive and kids get boated then the parents don’t enjoy themselves as the are watching them the mother needs to sit down and think about it and remember it’s his wedding

Maybe a compromise is possible, I know of people who take their kids to the actual ceremony but not the reception, ask if this would be ok as most kids get bored at receptions and don’t like the food anyway.

We were child free but inviting them and then uninviting them is harsh.

I don’t think it’s unreasonable of them not to invite children. After all the wedding is about them not who they should make happy with the invites. I can see why you are upset after taking back inviting the children. You should talk to your brother about it so you can move forward and not have that weight on your shoulders.

I only invited my sister in laws kids 3 boys to my wedding as they had a role to play and they were close with my kids. The only other kids that were allowed were babies that needed to be breastfed and bottle fed unless it was up to the parents. I wanted the adults to have a good time because at the end of the day, it goes back to their role once they leave the place. Few hours of kids free is relaxation. I invited my sister even though I didn’t have a close relationship with her, she had a choice of coming or not coming even though her 5 kids weren’t invited. she chosed not to come. at the end of the day, its his wedding not his sister!

Don’t we always invite family? It’s a must isn’t it?

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  • • carrie-anne replied
    • 25 Mar 2019 , 9:32 pm

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  Agree its all about family getting together and celebrating.

Definitely a hard choice and one that should’ve been made clear before invitiations went out

I understand there needing to be a blanket rule otherwise it would be never ending complaints about why their kids weren’t invited but others were

They are immediate family and should be included. Relationships are more important than money.

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 25 Mar 2019 , 7:54 am

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  Not everyone has the money for an expensive wedding

I can understand the kids being upset if they were initially invited to the wedding.
But I do understand the no kids thing as weddings are so expensive.