just be thankful to have a child! love the ones that you are blessed with and see the positives! be grateful

Don’t agree with gender selection but can understand feeling somewhat disappointed if you really wanted a boy and you have a girl as did I. But she was very much loved and the next child was a boy.

My Daughter-In-Law has three beautiful girls. She really wanted a boy and agonised about the sex of her third child praying it would be a boy. Lo and behold another daughter. They are all loved equally and that’s what matters. I don’t believe in gender selection. To me it is all about your genes and that’s good enough for me.

My sister’s friend also is pregnant with her third boy and I am told she is disappointed too. Personally, I think you should be happy with what God has given you but that is just me, each to their own.

Can’t really comment on this story as I have never experienced the longing for one particular sex. Wishing them well though.

I have an only child, a boy. I never imagined I would only have one child but that’s the way life turned out for our family. 4 years trying, 2 and a half of that on IVF, my son born with the absolute last embryo before we were going to give up. I never had a yearning for a boy or a girl, just a yearning for a baby. Each family is different, I know, but I believe we’re given the children we need in our life, and vice versa.

I think gender selection is a bit like playing God. As harsh as this is going to sound you should be happy with what you get no matter what- who cares if they are a boy or a girl it doesn’t mean that they can’t still be everything that you dreamed of- there is no reason you won’t have a special relationship and you don’t know what their interests will be or what they are going to be like as they get older. If you don’t feel as though you will be happy regardless of what you get then you shouldn’t even attempt to have kids because it is a 50/50 chance either way.

I certainly understand hoping for a certain sex but thankfully I dont understand and have never had to deal with that depth of disappointment.

Does it really matter what the gender of your baby is? My niece has recently given birth to her third son, she is so in love with all three of them. Be happy with what God gives you it’s a gift not a choice.

Personally I can’t really relate.
I come from a family of 5 girls. I think my mum would have liked a boy at some point for my dad. But I remember my dad just being proud of his girls-clan.

Do know how you felt. I had a son from my previous marriage, then a beautiful baby girl, then another beautiful baby girl but my husband wanted a boy – I was just happy that they were healthy children. Fourth time around a bouncing baby boy – but he could somehow never accept he was his.
Such a pity – he is the image of his father’s youngest uncle.

I know one family who have 4 boys, They would have liked a girl but it never happened.
I know another family who have 5 girls. They would have liked a boy to take over the business which was heavy work and labour intensive. Back then there was no training for girls, either at school or at Tafe.

I understand these feelings but at the same time I cant truly relate. I was desperately wanting a boy and last week we found out that I am pregnant with a boy, the joy I felt was overwhelming. If it had been a girl i dont know how i would have felt

You can understand,though as long as your baby is healthy that is all that matters.

My older three sons are about two years apart in age and there was still born daughter between the older two. I was a bit disappointed but this was how it was. When my youngest of that lot was about 15, we had a surprise in store. Not wanting to be disappointed did not find out the sex of the baby and we had a girl. My sons were happy and so was I to get through it as I was told I could not have anymore. At 51 along came my twins boy/girl. So yes it can disappointing when it happens , but having the same sex children can be fun at times.

what a hard thing to face, the biggest thing is how they accept the gender once the baby has been born

I wish that I could have a daughter

This is a very tricky subject, I have three beautiful sons and my youngest ‘baby’ is now twenty years old. But when I found out I was expecting him, not only was it a lovely surprise but I also went into overdrive thinking I was getting the girl I always thought I would have. I was also approaching forty years of age and have diabetes, so I had the test to check all was good and to prepare if things were not. I also found out that ‘she’ was a he. I was so disappointed, I cried and cried. I settled down and carried on but without the same enthusiasm. I had my baby boy and all was well, but the feeling wouldn’t go away…..until my husband said “we can try again” and suddenly, I looked at my perfect little boy and my other two boys looking in at him in his crib and the thought came into my mind that I had been so incredibly lucky to have them and it would devalue them if I carried on for a girl. I do understand anybody who says they feel that way and it is a very strong emotion, but that thought fixed my mind and it was as if I had snapped out of it’s negative pattern. I am not putting my emotions or thoughts on to others, but I certainly do understand it.