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The debate about homework has long raged, but one mum says the amount of after-school tasks her five-year-old is expected to do has given him anxiety, and she is ‘done’.

US-based mum Cayley shared a video on TikTok, explaining that she recently found out parents are able to ‘opt out’ of homework for their children.

“I didn’t know that until recently,” Cayley explained.

“I sent my son’s kindergarten teacher a cutesy little email saying, ‘I’m sorry. Based on the stress, mental, physical anxiety it’s causing my kid, we are done,’ ” she said.

@cayleyxox I hope it inspires more parents to do it for their children ❤️ #momsoftiktok ♬ original sound – cayleyxo

Cayley revealed her five-year-old had been given a packet of homework for the month of August, which consisted of about 15 double-sided pages. The frustrated mum says she’s been trying to do the homework with her son, but it’s causing him ‘so much mental stress.

“I feel so guilty for this. This morning we were sitting down and I told him you can’t even watch a show this morning, you can’t do anything, it’s going to be radio silence until you sit here and eat your breakfast and finish at least one or two pages of this. She said he started crying, which led Cayley to start crying.

“It was an emotional mess. I felt so guilty dropping him off at school,” she said. “He didn’t want to be there. For the last two weeks, he told me he doesn’t even like school and doesn’t want to be there anymore, which hurts my mama heart because you’re five. The only thing you should be worrying about is learning and what time snack time is.”

Cayley’s video, which has been viewed hundreds of thousands of times, was applauded by parents, who were shocked that five-year-old were being given homework.

“It’s crazy to me how different each country is. My son is in grade five and he hasn’t ever gotten homework, outside of ‘family’ related homework (think the ‘getting to know you’ pages).”

Even teachers were supportive of the mum opting out of homework for her son.

“So from a teacher perspective, that is way too much to do; however, l am a teacher, and do individual skills for kids to practice at home based on the child’s needs. We do a ton of hands on skills, but we are also teaching kids how to write first and last names, cutting skills, how to glue, how to hold a pencil and crayon, how to sit correctly, how to use the bathroom, how to hold a book, the difference between snacks in their lunchboxes and lunch in their lunchboxes and tons more things. This takes a good 2 months. Ask your teacher for more individual skills your child needs to work on. That’s a win/win for parent and student.”

Cayley has updated the situation with the teacher’s response, and it wasn’t what she was expecting.

The teacher said she’s never received any similar emails from other parents, and didn’t think she was giving out ‘that much work’.

Take a look at how the conversation went in the video below.

 

@cayleyxox Replying to @Austyn #momsoftiktok #momshelpingmoms ♬ original sound – cayleyxo


What do you think? Does your child have homework and what grade are they in? Let us know in the comments below. 

  • Even at high school my kids were most of the time able to finish their home work tasks in class, so it hardly ever happened that they had to do home work at home. For young kids and also for teenagers there are so many life skills they can focus on ; social contacts and friendships, cooking, cleaning, doing the laundry, groceries & money budgeting, part-time jobs, colleagues

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  • I really hated the fact that my daughters first day of school she came home with home work. I think that they spend the entire day at school and when they get home they should be able to clock out and relax much like adults do with work. Its me time

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  • Also there are countries in the world kids are not given home work, under which Finland.
    Finnish students rarely do homework until their teens. …
    Finland’s high school graduation rate is at 93% compared to 78% in Canada and 75% in the US. …
    Finland and New York have the same number of teachers. …
    Standardized testing is kept to a minimum.
    And Poland followed in their foorsteps;
    The Polish government banned homework for students in grades 1–3 and 4–8, and made it optional in upper primary. The ban was a result of research that showed homework can cause mental health issues, depression, stress, and loss of interest in learning.

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  • I agree with what one of the teachers suggests that there are a lot of individual skills for kids to practice like hands on skills, how to write first and last names, cutting skills, how to glue, how to hold a pencil and crayon, how to sit correctly, how to use the bathroom, how to hold a book, etc etc

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  • I agree with this mum. Home work at 5 years of age is ridiculous !
    I have one more child left in primary school, she’s in grade 5, 11 years old and has additional needs. I don’t do homework as such, but we do read a book every night and I have her writing a small amount of words every night (which includes her first and last name). She comes home tired after school and there are a bunch of other goals we work on at home.

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  • I’m a big believer in homework but not at such a young age. This places a lot of stress on the parents as well as the child and yes, I do think it can affect how a child feels about school, whether they hate it or not. I think doing homework in primary school is important though, because it prepares you for homework in high school. But one of the things that I struggle with is the follow up with the teacher. If I sit with my child and help him do his homework, I think the teacher should be checking it. There should be set days for handing it in, written down clearly for the parent to remind the child. I have three children, one in primary and the other two in high school. The two older have had practice with homework and now, I don’t need to follow up. They know what is due and when.

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  • They should not be given so much homework when they are only in kindergarten. That should be the time for learning to mix with others, sharing and making friends. They get plenty of homework when they start grade school

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  • You need all the education you can get start now and as they get older they will handle it better. You can’t climb a mountain if there is no hill

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  • Kindergarten is a time of fun and socialisation not for homework. I think it’s silly the Kindergarten give out homework.

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  • It’s interesting that the homework policies are different between the different states. And there’s also a vast difference between countries.

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  • I agree it’s too much in Kindy, Maybe one page a week if any.

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  • There should be no need for homework at all until well into high school. They’re children!!!!

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  • Homework sounds way too stressful for kindy


    • Homework shouldn’t cause stress, most certainly not in primary school

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  • I think it can be an optional thing for kinder. I don’t see any harm in it in fact probably more beneficial so long as its not strictly forced.

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  • Who has homework in Kindergarten? All three of my kids never did homework in kindergarten. In primary school in the younger years they had the occasional project to do at home other than that it was and is home readers and words for homework.


    • My kids had to recite their sight words and prepare speeches / show and tell

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  • My children didn’t have homework until the year before going to high school so they were able to accept the new learning that would be expected of them. They all did well.

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  • No homework for kindy kids. Read with the family and play games that are fun. Learning comes in many forms. There is plenty of time for that so called homework from grade 3 onwards. I always questioned Homework and made sure it was relevant to the days learning program. I had a Head Mistress who told us Mums at a Parent Group meeting “Homework is expected as Parents want it.” People nearly fell off their chairs as the debate got going on that subject.

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  • Homework for kindy kids, WHAT ???? No way! I’d opt out too. Way to young for such a workload

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  • My daughter is in grade 6 and my son grade 3. Neither child has ever been given homework aside from reading exercises. I think this is wrong as I used to get homework from grade 3 growing up and my daughter’s grammar and spelling is atrocious for her age, and I’m genuinely concerned for her going into high school next year.

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  • None if my kids get homework apart from their readers. Even my high school student…

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