The trick is that as a parent you need to stop and think before speaking. Anything that you say you must be prepared to carry though with or the kids will learn very quickly that anything you say is just rubbish and they dont have to pay attention.
I think in this case that the party could have been cancelled but you still need to acknowledge the birthday with a single gift and a cake after dinner.

My eldest cut her hair. So I fixed it up as best as possible and told her not to do it again. She did so again I corrected it and spoke to her about it. She ten cut all of barbies hair off and I was scared that she would cut her little sisters hair. All her barbies were taken away and for the life of me looking back now I cant remember how it was that she kept getting hold of scissors but she cut her hair again and this time I lost it. I told her that if she did it again then I would shave all her hair off and she would have none. She knew that if I said something I carried through. My husband said “Yeah but you would really”…I was stunned that eh doubted me and I prayed hard that my daughter wouldnt test me. Thankfully she didnt.

It’s up to the individual parenting I guess. I couldn’t do that, that’s all I know.

You haven’t really cancelled his birthday because he’s still getting a party, so don’t feel too bad. He still gets to have fun with friends and family and a cake to eat. I think you need to come up with long term punishments if the bad behaviour continues. A birthday only happens once a year, bad behaviour is more regular then that

I wouldn’t have cancelled the birthday, that is a special celebration of the day he was born however some other punishment would have sufficed.

You need to carry through on threats and sometimes you just don’t not what else to do when their behaviour is out of control. Yes it is a bit mean but also why reward bad behaviour. kid thinks ”I can do this and still get to celebrate my birthday.” Nope! Good on you, do it your way and not worry about others reactions. They aren’t dealing with it constantly.

If it was a threat and he still misbehaved, then you needed to carry it through… at 6 I’m not sure I could have but they need to learn.

My son isn’t 6 yet so I can’t really comment, but I do feel sorry for the kid.

If you threatened it then yes you do have to otherwise it is empty and they will assume all other threatened punishments are. They will learn that you will follow through with your punishment no matter what, you are the boss not them

I think cancelling a birthday is pretty extreme. There are other “punishments” that may have been more suitable in my opinion.

Children have to learn to be responsible for their actions and that will be consequences especially if they have had several warnings and had it explained why the behaviour is wrong a few times. Up under a certain age kids have a short concentration span and need a few reminders. I wonder if there is problems with behaviour at school. If he is being bullied it may be his reaction. Have you sat down with him and calmly asked him if there is anything happening he hasn’t told you about. It could be something happening at school. Or people passing comments or intimidating him in other ways when they pass him anywhere

I would have acknowledged his birthday and given him a present but I would have cancelled the party. You’d only have to do this once but explain to him what your reasoning was.

My daughter has just turn 14 I told her at the start of the Christmas holidays if she doesn’t clean her room by the time school started back I wouldn’t get her any birthday presents. Her room is not clean she had no presents from us but still got them from other family I asked her why she did clean her room she said she thought I wouldn’t go thought with it and I would give her presents

I completely understand where this mum is coming from, my son was completely out of control at kids functions, I sought help and was encouraged to try the ADHD diet which worked miracles. He is now highly successful, married with young son, clone of his dad at same age and also being very, very successfully managed on ADHD diet. My grandson regularly gets student of the week award, very proud of both of them.

She didn’t completely cancel the party. Just didn’t do the presents or family celebration. I’m sure he eventually got his presents when the behavior improved. Nothing wrong with it!

I think the punishment needs to be immediate, on the day or following the act for a 6 year old to understand the consequences. Birthdays are special and should be celebrated. However, I do understand being a Mum at her wits end when nothing else will work. He may be pushing the boundaries, or there may be more going on.

As a mum who has 6 year old if my son is naughty I give punishment straightway for example I said no tv because of his behaviour and so for whole day and night he had to tv so he was ???? for the rest of the week. Not having the party good idea but not celebrations ???? no cake or gift his 6 not 36 . No u could say if your good all day he can have cake and gift after dinner to celebrate positive attitude is better then a negative

As a mum who has 6 year old if my son is naughty I give punishment straightway for example I said no tv because of his behaviour and so for whole day and night he had to tv so he was ???? for the rest of the week. Not having the party good idea but not celebrations ???? no cake or gift his 6 not 36 . No u could say if your good all day he can have cake and gift after dinner to celebrate positive attitude is better then a negative

As a mum who has 6 year old if my son is naughty I give punishment straightway for example I said no tv because of his behaviour and so for whole day and night he had to tv so he was ???? for the rest of the week. Not having the party good idea but not celebrations ???? no cake or gift his 6 not 36 . No u could say if your good all day he can have cake and gift after dinner to celebrate positive attitude is better then a negative

As a mum who has 6 year old if my son is naughty I give punishment straightway for example I said no tv because of his behaviour and so for whole day and night he had to tv so he was ???? for the rest of the week. Not having the party good idea but not celebrations ???? no cake or gift his 6 not 36 . No u could say if your good all day he can have cake and gift after dinner to celebrate positive attitude is better then a negative

As a mum who has 6 year old if my son is naughty I give punishment straightway for example I said no tv because of his behaviour and so for whole day and night he had to tv so he was ???? for the rest of the week. Not having the party good idea but not celebrations ???? no cake or gift his 6 not 36 . No u could say if your good all day he can have cake and gift after dinner to celebrate positive attitude is better then a negative