Mum's voice vs normal voice

Being a practical and efficient woman I have to say Mum’s voice is the choice I have been making with my 2 year old lately over my normal voice.

I am sure all you mums reading this understand exactly what I am talking about when I say, Mum’s voice.

Mum’s voice is the half scream, very direct voice that snaps our kids in to line almost instantly.

Where as normal voice when it comes to parenting I find you repeat yourself in this voice about five times. After the fifth time you still are not guaranteed a positive result. Talk about a time waster!

With my daughter the second Mum’s voice comes out asking her the exact same thing as I was asking with normal voice she jumps to and obeys. Now don’t get me wrong I do feel Mum’s voice has a expiry date. I’m thinking between 2-4 years old. After that the basic ground rules for existence should be established. Some examples:

Please do not draw on our couch with a permanent marker!
Please do not use the toilet brush to hit our family dog!
And my latest favourite. Please do not fill the toilet with a whole roll of toilet paper then flush it and flood our bathroom!

Normal voice in explaining the extreme ‘that’s not cool’ of these situations seems like a complete waste of time. I mean to be a multi tasking mum we need to be efficient right?!

So ladies when that Mum’s voice is required, even though we hate the sound of it ourselves, I say, it’s ok.

In two years from now you will have many new and exciting challenges with these little ones!

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41 Comments

- - ChiWren said
  - 07 Jan 2024
    1:26 pm
My guy is too little for my mum voice just yet, but I laugh when I remember my mum’s!

- - ella12 said
  - 28 Nov 2017
    3:23 pm
Yes I agree with that, cheers.

- - mom81879 said
  - 21 Nov 2015
    3:46 pm
In closing, I gave to add that not even the mum voice is guaranteed to always work

- - dannsbuild said
  - 17 Sep 2015
    3:01 pm
Cool! This is interesting! Thank you for sharing this!

- - smiles said
  - 30 Apr 2015
    9:31 pm
Love this! I seem to have a mum’s voice constantly to get through to my kids I mean business. Otherwise they think I’m a softy!

- - unicorns said
  - 14 Jan 2015
    8:03 pm
Fun reading the article. It reminded me when my children were growing up and I would talks sternly with them they would say. ‘Mums using her man voice again’.

- - matildaspice said
  - 07 Jan 2015
    10:08 pm
Great article, sometimes the Mum’s voice just needs to come out!

- - mom117219 said
  - 07 Jan 2015
    4:19 pm
true, You require commanding and sometimes and be soft at sometimes,,
- mom94125 replied
  
  17 Oct 2015 , 11:26 pm
  yeah the mum voice hardly works but the dad voice…..lol
- - keeleynme said
  - 31 Dec 2014
    6:01 pm
Lol kids are so frustrating sometimes. All you can do is walk away and laugh.

- - Lov'n'Life said
  - 27 Dec 2014
    8:00 pm
my kids are the same wish it was different but when you want things done ever it is the only thing to do

- - jess said
  - 12 Dec 2014
    10:54 pm
oh yeh mums voice is necessary just dont do it too often when they are older mums voice gets ignored too.

- - mom94125 said
  - 11 Dec 2014
    9:49 pm
lol i agree about the 2-4 year line. this was funny to read. you should also mention the dad voice. i went shopping with hubby and i am asking my child to hold my hand and getting the NO! then daddy asks the same thing and my child willingly reaches for his hand. he used his normal voice though! lol

- - cloverstorm said
  - 30 Nov 2014
    2:11 pm
I stop myself when I hear myself doing it. I can’t stand that voice coming from me.

- - christial said
  - 29 Nov 2014
    11:14 pm
I try not to raise my voice.. But really don’t get heard when I don’t say things louder!

- - Momfunster said
  - 27 Nov 2014
    8:55 pm
Oh yeah ‘mum’s voice’ – that’s me at least 100 times a day.

- - curlytops said
  - 26 Nov 2014
    10:12 pm
interesting read – we do change our voices with out realising sometimes!

- - hmp88 said
  - 26 Nov 2014
    11:03 am
It’s got that deeper author active undertone that makes them listen and pay attention!

- - tam_watters said
  - 26 Nov 2014
    8:29 am
I use my ‘teacher voice’ and order around other people’s kids at parties and other gatherings. A terrible habit -very awkward and embarrassing at times.

- - kyliebaby22 said
  - 25 Nov 2014
    10:23 pm
I’m a great believer in using time of voice to get things done.
With my two year old, it’s a stern, loud voice that does the trick – while the four year old gets the quiet, scary mummy voice – that one that you can use in public because it’s very very quiet and very very effective!
Mostly I just have to tell them I’m losing patience with their behaviour for them to remember they don’t like the mummy voice, and toe the line.
- tam_watters replied
  
  03 Dec 2014 , 6:12 pm
  It sounds like your voice is your mum-superpower! Its a great talent to have so if you got, why not use it?
- - deb_gs said
  - 25 Nov 2014
    9:32 pm
I start with the normal voice and warn my child when it is about to change to a mummy voice. She knows the inflection now!