When you become a parent you have to learn to grow a thick skin and always put your children first.
There will always be someone who wont like your choices but as long as your choices are giving your best for your child then it doesnt matter what others think.

I totally agree. Don’t feel bad at all saying no to people that are sick or have sick children. I have done it before. You are the parent & the one that will look & care for your child when sick so don’t put other people before your baby. It isn’t worth it!

I would never visit a baby when sick. I keep my kids way if they are sick also. Ive had friends annoyed they I havent visited straight away, but they havent had a sick little baby before.

How irresponsible of the visitors who were sick!! I would never go near a newborn if I was unwell!!

I think visitors need to use common sense when visiting new babies. If you are sick or even have a slight sniffle, stay away ESPECIALLY if the babies are premmie. A cold can kill a premmie baby even once they are at home and out of hospital.

The visitor should have known better and used common sense to recover at home.

When ever I meet someone’s newborn I always wear a mask and explain my reasoning that I don’t want to make their child sick. Otherwise I just don’t go near them until I’m feeling better. Better to be safe than sorry

I was always very cautious of who carried my children when there babies. If they had a sniffle or were even near people that were sick I would say no. These days you can’t take the risk. Babies are resilient but also delicate . On the same hand if I were sick or my kids were I would not be visiting someone with a new born.

The visitor shouldn’t have picked up the baby from the first place or offered to cuddle her and knowing they are sick

Problem could have been that the visitor constantly has hayfever from weed and other pollens.
You can get very similar symptoms too. I have a relative who constantly gets hayfever because of the areas he travels through for work. He had the same problem as when we were at school together. He has tablets which he only takes when it gets really bad and he knows he knows he is going to be in that area fir a few days. He has had a few series of allergy tests

Our friends were actually very good about staying away if they had colds or similar.

my last two were premature I had no trouble saying no

My sister in law made my baby sick. Thankfully not really bad like this baby. But she is a nurse so should have known better. I think the people who are sick have a responsibility too.

Sounded very scary that the baby couldn’t breathe. I always felt that the baby’s microbiome was improved by lots of social contact; but I guess the point comes (especially when breast milk doesn’t have the antibodies either) when someone is sick and the poor kid gets it bad.

Ooh, I think it is wrong and irresponsible for someone to visit a newborn when they are feeling a little sick. It’s not okay. When will people learn.

I think it is very rude for the person who was sick to come and see the newborn when they were ill. I know we all get excited about a new arrival, but there is no way I would risk their health by going to see them when sick. I was not afraid to tell people please dont come when you’re sick to see the baby, but I know that it can be hard for some people to voice their concerns

Very irresponsible when family / friends just visit a newborn with a cold !

You know your so right I completely agree, I am going to not have visitors until my baby is a little older because it isn’t worth they’re health being put at risk. My baby is due soon.

Poor bubba, us as parents there is nothing worse than not being able to help our babies

I wish I had been more vocal when my kids were tiny. Luckily they didn’t get sick, but I remember cringing on one visit where a toddler, snot and dirt smeared all over her face and hands…….and the mum was encouraging her to come see the little baby. It was horrendous