Her child her choice of course !

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 04 Aug 2024 , 4:34 am

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  I do wonder what the long term impact is on both mum and child though

I take it that Mum doesnt work?
Routine would be required if she worked and if she had other children it would make it more difficult.
The teenage years will be telling and will this young lady be able to get the job she wants, get into a relationship and go out without Mum and perhaps even move in with her partner at some stage. I think that this might be a way of Mum maintaining control by making it look look she is giving all the freedom in the world.

This would be difficult to live with in our family as there are other commitments with work etc., but if it works for them, great 🙂

I don’t agree with this but if it works for this family, then so be it for them.

Each to their own but how will she ever last as an adult in the real world?

each to their own I guess, wouldnt work for my family!

Her child her choice but where are the boundaries. How is she going to cope when she goes out into the world on her own!

I feel for the little girl. What happens when she has to face the real world and get a job? What experience do you have? Oh not much I dont even have schooling under my belt… I feel like she’s setting her up for failure.

It says parenting style but I’m not so sure parenting actually takes places?sounds like she wants to have a best friend not a child! Where are the boundaries that will enable her to function in the real world, to hold a job?
I’ve nothing against homeschooling, I even chose to homeschool one of mine, but everything followed a routine time and the curriculum. Not so sure this mum is doing her daughter any favours here!

I guess each to their own. My son needed a bedtime routine for him to function properly, so that worked for us.

I can’t see it working for our family.
Each family is different but as I work part time, going to bed at 5am wouldn’t work at all.

That doesn’t sound to me like that mother is parenting the child.

It doesn’t make sense to me but I guess it does to her.

I would have loved to home-school my children but since we live across the road from the school, this would never have been allowed. I do think her child will find it hard when she enters the real world and needs a job. They’re not going to let her dictate what hours she does or what work she will do. Hopefully it works out for her when she has to enter that type of situation

I don’t agree with this but this is her child, who am I to say how she is raised. You can only hope that she grows up to be a well adjusted adult, who is caring, loving and understanding, it would be interesting to see how she develops and handles adulthood compared to those who that have had the typical upbringing.

I know that many people with disagree with this approach because they find this approach shocking. I disagree, because the damage overusing technology is doing to your child’s brain is really scary. The lack of sleep is also really damaging. We only get one brain and your child will be around long after you, do you really want to give them the gift of dementia or another neurological condition? It also affects your child’s ability to learn. It’s not that they can’t learn later in life, its that it is MUCH harder for them.

I’ve read many times that children do better when they have boundaries. This is going in the opposite direction, so it will be interesting to see how this young lady copes as an adult.

Wow! Not an approach I would ever consider, not sure about not attending school though – lack of routine or structure might make adult life a bit difficult.

Wow, see I think parents like these don’t deserve kids. This child is not going to know what hit her when she has to join the real world. How is she ever going to get a job? She’s not really learning useful life skills there, not like she can rock up to training and say ‘no, I don’t want to do that today’.

I would love to homeschool my daughter! I feel like regular school wastes so much time and teaches so much irrelevant information, along with lots of theories that aren’t even factual but kids grow up thinking they are facts. I must say at almost 3 years old it’s hard enough sometimes bed-sharing, my daughter kicks all the blankets off me and pretty much pushes me out the bed a lot of the time but I do like her in my room when I sleep and she loves sleeping with mummy. We do not have a set bedtime either, I do try to get her to bed at a seemingly ok time but sometimes she will just not go to sleep and I would rather let her play a bit longer and get that energy out, then have a good deep sleep rather than have her keep waking. No way would I give my child unlimited screen time though. Tvs, phones, media, they all program your subconsious mind – I myself do not watch TV for this reason I woke up to it’s true power on the mind a few years ago the majority of it is all so negative, constant drama, arguing, and fighting etc it’s not what I want my daughter to think is normal. However, I allow my daughter to watch a few shows she likes Paw Patrol, Blippi, Polly Pocket, people playing with playdoh etc. but I try to keep a watchful eye as they sneak some disgusting quotes which may seem harmless in contrast with the show but taken away from the show when my daughter has copied them I have been absolutely furious! Taken from Paw Patrol (old guy talking about cats) “Oh my pussies getting wet” yes, she copied this and I almost cried. I was so angry! Totally unnecessary line with the video that I strongly believe was put in there for sick reasons. My dream house will have no TV I have no choice right now living with someone else. I was left alone with a PC when I was very young, same with friends, we all discovered porn way too young and that really pushed a warped reality of womens bodies and what men want into our heads. I don’t think it’s good for anyones mental health to be constantly on screens whether it be shows or social media etc. Sometimes some very strange ads come on Youtube as well that should really only be for adults during childrens shows.