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Let’s face it, most of us count down the hours minutes until the kids go to bed. By the end of the day, we’re all frazzled and in desperate need of switching off. So why would anyone want to keep their baby up until midnight?

Before we all start clicking our tongues and clutching our pearls, we need to hear why a mum-of-two has decided that midnight is the perfect bedtime for her seven-month-old. Victoria Yavnyi has shared on her TikTok account that her baby daughter, named Grey, hits the hay at midnight, and she’s ‘never understood why parents would put their babies to bed at 7pm’.

“That just means when they have had their full 12 hours of sleep, they would wake up at 7am,” she explains. “And us being stay at home parents, this isn’t very necessary. As long as the baby has their needed amount of sleep, the time you put them to bed doesn’t matter. So this is a man made thing. She sleeps from 12am – 1pm, and that’s what works for our family.”

The video, which has been viewed more than a million times, has attracted both supportive and judgemental comments. “My baby sleeps at 12am too! It’s so much more convenient for many reasons,” writes hierkatie.

“What about when she starts school? You got it coming,” added laurellsims5. “It’s called circadian rhythm,” said another commenter. “It is biological, not man made.”

“So basically you’ve decided to give the baby the sleep cycle of an unhealthy teen so you don’t have to parent for the first six hours of the day,” commented duckpancakes1.

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The huge interest in her post, prompted Victoria to answer some of the most common questions, including when does she have time with her husband? “All night long,” she replies. “I usually fall asleep around 3am/4am.”

The 24 year-old also refuted claims that she’s setting her baby’s circadian rhythm now for the rest of her life. “Bedtime is a social construct,” Victoria says, “And ‘circadian rhythm’ only exists because of society. You don’t need to put your kids to bed at 8pm to be successful.”

Victoria also explains that she has an older daughter who is in grade three, so she does get up in the morning to help her get ready for school. And she says her school-aged daughter had the same sleep pattern when she was younger, and didn’t take long to adjust to getting up early for school.

In a series of TikToks Victoria shows her baby’s day, including having her first bottle at midday, and breakfast at 1pm. It’s followed by milk at 5pm and 8pm before dinner and another bottle at 11.30pm.

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  • My kids sleeping time often changed when they were little.I think it depends on what is best for the family.

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  • Although I totally think you should do what works for you and your family and do not judge, I do think too late to bed isn’t so good for your body. Studies show if you mess with the body’s sleep-wake cycle, your blood pressure goes up, hunger hormones get thrown off and blood-sugar regulation goes south. Over time this may set the stage for metabolic diseases such as diabetes.

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  • If it works for this family who am I to judge. I personally put my kids to bed by 7.30pm, but I am not a night owl and it works for us.

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  • It seems very late to me. I wouldn’t go later than 10pm.

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  • My daughter doesn’t have a set bedtime. I prefer to go to sleep around 9pm. My mum works long shifts and is often up late at night after getting home so there can be a lot of noise which is hard to get my daughter to sleep with. I just put her to sleep when she is tired and ready. For a while I really pushed to get her in bed around 8.30 for a while I would spend hours frustrated trying to remain patient and calm for nothing as she wouldn’t sleep anyway and I would just waste hours I could of been doing something else like playing with her, cleaning, working out etc. Adults don’t like being forced to sleep at a certain time, why should kids? My daughter tells me when she is tired and then we have a short breastfeed to get her to sleep. Sometimes it might be like 7pm, other nights 10pm and sometimes it isn’t until about 1am but forcing her to try and go to sleep is a no from me because it puts unnecessary stress on both of us. I’m a stay-at-home mum so this works for us.

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  • I’m a night owl and those couple of hours between baby going to sleep and me going to sleep was time for me to do things I enjoyed like reading, watching tv etc.

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  • My goodness. We started with an 11pm bedtime when our baby was a newborn but then gradually brought it back to a regular 7pm bedtime. It meant initially the longest stretch of sleep was until 1-2am which was amazing, now it’s 11-12 hour stretches

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  • I know I could not stay up that late without feeling tired all the time the next day

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  • Mum and baby have the same eyes.

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  • I wouldn’t have done that but if it works for them why should it bother anyone else. I used to put my boys to bed with a pillow and a bottle. Nowadays it’s one of the worst things you could do to cause cot death. Do’s and don’ts for raising children is forever changing. Now I’m horrified that I did this and so thankful no harm was done.

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  • Each to their own – if it works for them and their lifestyle, why not.

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  • Wow! I would not have been able to cope with that. We had a child that screamed 24/7 so we worked with a sleep school to settle at a reasonable time of 7.30, for all of our sanity.

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  • That’s just stupid! Obviously they’ve never worked. It’s impractical, I wouldn’t even want to stay up that late! It’s not healthy.

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  • Babies this age are not sleeping right through anyway. And I congratulate this mum for being able to identify time. At 7 months I felt like time no longer existed in some sort of worm hole.

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  • If it works for you it’s not for others to judge. We all do things in life to suit our needs.

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