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Let’s face it, most of us count down the hours minutes until the kids go to bed. By the end of the day, we’re all frazzled and in desperate need of switching off. So why would anyone want to keep their baby up until midnight?

Before we all start clicking our tongues and clutching our pearls, we need to hear why a mum-of-two has decided that midnight is the perfect bedtime for her seven-month-old. Victoria Yavnyi has shared on her TikTok account that her baby daughter, named Grey, hits the hay at midnight, and she’s ‘never understood why parents would put their babies to bed at 7pm’.

“That just means when they have had their full 12 hours of sleep, they would wake up at 7am,” she explains. “And us being stay at home parents, this isn’t very necessary. As long as the baby has their needed amount of sleep, the time you put them to bed doesn’t matter. So this is a man made thing. She sleeps from 12am – 1pm, and that’s what works for our family.”

The video, which has been viewed more than a million times, has attracted both supportive and judgemental comments. “My baby sleeps at 12am too! It’s so much more convenient for many reasons,” writes hierkatie.

“What about when she starts school? You got it coming,” added laurellsims5. “It’s called circadian rhythm,” said another commenter. “It is biological, not man made.”

“So basically you’ve decided to give the baby the sleep cycle of an unhealthy teen so you don’t have to parent for the first six hours of the day,” commented duckpancakes1.

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The huge interest in her post, prompted Victoria to answer some of the most common questions, including when does she have time with her husband? “All night long,” she replies. “I usually fall asleep around 3am/4am.”

The 24 year-old also refuted claims that she’s setting her baby’s circadian rhythm now for the rest of her life. “Bedtime is a social construct,” Victoria says, “And ‘circadian rhythm’ only exists because of society. You don’t need to put your kids to bed at 8pm to be successful.”

Victoria also explains that she has an older daughter who is in grade three, so she does get up in the morning to help her get ready for school. And she says her school-aged daughter had the same sleep pattern when she was younger, and didn’t take long to adjust to getting up early for school.

In a series of TikToks Victoria shows her baby’s day, including having her first bottle at midday, and breakfast at 1pm. It’s followed by milk at 5pm and 8pm before dinner and another bottle at 11.30pm.

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  • If that works for her….at our home is 8pm

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  • Each to their own. This definitely wouldn’t work in our household but I’m not going to judge them, especially if it works for them.

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  • It probably works for them because they are stay at home parents. I can understand her not being happy with other people’s comments but she says herself that she can’t understand why people put their children to bed so early. It all boils down to what works for your children and yourselves

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  • If it works for them. It wouldn’t work well in our family.

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  • Whatever works for her and the family. I don’t imagine her baby/child is always going to stay up until midnight. Having a baby that wouldn’t sleep and then required sleep school, if this had worked, I would have gone with it!

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  • I think we all get caught up in the expectations of society rather than living our lives how we want. Good on them for no following status quo

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  • Just do what works for you and forget what others think. I couldn’t stay up that late myself, so my baby would be going to bed at an hour before I have to do it.

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  • At the end of the day you really need to do what’s best for your own mental and physical well-being and not what you think others would expect you to do. If it works for you and you can function, then that’s fine. If the baby’s healthy, fed and has a predictable bedtime then good.

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  • I’m up every hour or two between my two little ones. If 12am works for them and the baby is happy and healthy, that’s all that matters! They are also aware of the adjustments needed once they have more social commitments!

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  • I don’t know how she get up to help her older daughter for school in the morning after only a few hours of sleep? It wouldn’t work for my house.

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  • You’re basically teaching your child to be a bogan. A normal sleep routine sets them up for life. Most people actually need to be awake by 7am on weekdays… you should think of what’s best for your child in the long-run, not what’s more convenient to you.

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  • I need to be in bed well before midnight, I couldn’t do it, my child also doesn’t sleep for 12 hrs straight, its a great night if I get 6hrs in a row.

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  • My kids go to bed at 7:30-8pm SO I can enjoy a few hours haha. The only time I get a midnight bedtime is when babies are still getting their routine as the early months are chaos.

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  • I personally don’t know what to say. Again another first for me in hearing about putting your child to bed at midnight. Physically I can’t.

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  • If that is working for them then why not

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