A very hard situation to be in – but it happens and has already happened to your daughter. Definitely go to your doctor and get some good advice from him with your daughter. She will listen more to an outsider than to you. If children are that interested and wanting sex, there is very little else you can do but partially accept the situation and make sure your daughter is as safe as possible from the consequences.

I uderstand that you would be worried about side effects of the pill BUT the side effects of NOT going on the pill or other contraceptive could be far greater for her then going on it. Take her to the Doctors and discuss it all there. Good luck with it all

I think she’s done everything right so far, but I’d also ask the other parents to talk to their son about the legal situation that’s about to occur – perhaps it will cause him to think twice about whether this is appropriate? Then again, teenagers… I’m glad they have friends who are willing to speak up.

This is a tough situation. 14 is definitely very young but they’ve already proven they’re going to do it and unless you can watch them 24/7 they will find a way to keep doing it. Yes, the hormones from the rod etc can be nasty its better than being pregnant at that age. I’d be making a doctors appt..

I agree with all of this comment, word for word! Regrettable as it may be, she is doing the right thing and approaching it responsibly and pragmatically. It’s good that the boy’s parents are also up to speed with what is happening and can make some informed decisions about what happens in their house. For all the opinions on whether this is too soon etc, it makes sense to manage what is already happening.

Congratulations you are another parent that has had a complete failure to communicate to their children so best you start picking names and start knitting

That is very young to be going on contraceptives. I hadn’t even gotten my period until just before I turned 15. I think she definitely needs to consult with a GP about that issue. However, as a parent, I would be very disappointed in my child if they were getting up to these sorts of activities at that age. It might be hard to stop, but surely, she could do something. Like grounding for starters. I hope I am bringing up my kids that they won’t be having sex until they are married, or at least not until they have finished school.

I understand this mum’s concerns and think that 14 is very young too, however she sure is not alone in this. The daughter indicates she is not being pushed into having sex with her boyfriend and that she wants it. I think it’s good that the mum brought up consent, contraception and spoke with the boyfriends parents. I would say to this mum to follow her gut, you’re doing well.

Pregnancy is worse than side effects of contraception. 14 is young but kids these days know a lot more about sex that we did or our parent’s did etc. You can only take her to a doctor and see what contraception would be suitable for her. It’s happened and there is no going back but you can be smart and get your daughter on some sort of contraception before it’s too late

Kids won’t use condoms. How many men have you heard say they don’t like them and I bet this kid will be the same. Proper contraceptive is the way to go.

Just give her condoms and talk to her pregnancy, this generation don’t listen to us mums anymore, and kids have more rights these days, in America they can divorce their parents, all I can say just talk to her gently and explain about safe sex that’s all you can do.

Its a hard situation to be in and it was great you were able to go to her and talk about it and look at options, instead of just grounding her etc. kids will always find a way to do what they want. The best thing you can do is agree on how she can be safe.

Oh goodness, what a daunting situation. 14 is so young to start these sorts of relationships. Approaching the parents of the boyfriend was a good idea, so everyone knows exactly what’s happening and can make sure everyone is being safe. Getting her daughter on contraceptives and educating her on all risks is imperative.

I think this mum is making all the right moves – not approving at all, but taking care of her daughter by making sure she has access to contraception. I love that a worried friend told a teacher – that must have taken guts. I think the best she can do is keep raising concerns like pregnancy and legality.