It’s not helpful comparing kids. Every kid is different.
Maybe have her assesses for adhd, odd, autism or anything behavioural disorder.

Setting clear and firm boundaries for yourself is key.
Decide what behaviour you are willing to ignore and the behaviour you won’t allow to be directed at you.

Maybe, seek therapy for yourself. They can give you communication skills.

Maybe she has been given too much. I feel she was a spoilt brat that asked and received. Respect is earned.

Hang in there Mama. She will outgrow this stage and appreciate you before you know.

The mother shouldn’t be too hard on herself. I think it’s important though not to give in to their daughter. Continue to be there for her, be firm but loving. Most of my friends have gone through this.. Her daughter will come around eventually

It sounds like she has had a hard time at school and despite the fact that her parents want to help her, she feels like she can’t open up to them. I was the fat kid in grade 7 and bullied, even after I lost the weight. I had no friends and it really messed with me. I always thought people were judging me and I was paranoid about looking okay, silently seeking acceptance. My school tried the counsellor thing with me, but that made it worse as it makes you feel like there’s something wrong with you. I think the parents need to give her the space she’s wanting and let her come to them. It will get better once she leaves school.

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It could be mental health issue. I would definitely speak with a psychologist and or psychiatrist just to see if it’s normal teenage behaviour or mental health. Then you can device if your teenage daughter requires consequences for her behaviour. It is not right the way she is constantly behaving towards the family and other people . Good luck

This could be normal teenage behaviour, but could also be a bit more than that. We got some psychological help for my teenage daughter when she was 16 or so and suffered from depression and anxiety. However you do need your child motivated for this otherwise it’s useless. We got free psychological help via Headspace

Embarrassing to admit but I was horrible daughter to my mum on my teenager years. I think everyone will go through this, it’s just our brain developing. Also not everyone is a social butterfly and extroverts. I didn’t have any particular hobbies either, I loved clothes and make up! I think the more we try to push our kids to become a certain person or push them in certain way the more they push back. Also could be worth talking to a health care professional, they can offer different options what to do in this situation

Mothers are the enemy and the more you try the more she will react badly to you. Give her space and if your worried talk to your doctor about her, her hormones are changing and teenagers think they know everything and parents don’t.

I was a terrible troubled teenager myself and things worked out for me, my parents got me psych help. I think its worth it.

I don’t know what to say. It scares shit out of me when I read these stuff. I really hope and pray things get better for you. I know as a mother when you put your kids ahead of anything and anybody it must be so hurtful. Just have faith in God and be positive.

Teenage years are hard on everyone – the best bet is to wait until she’s matured to see if she changes

Red flags here- sounds like a mental health issue- get her assessed. Fyi our almost 8 is almost as bad! So sad

Maybe take some time to do stuff that’s just the two of you so you can talk.
Maybe a spa day or something if she’s so obsessed with her looks. You guys can get facials and sit in the spa and have a one on one. Ask her how she’s feeling and why she is acting the way she is.

I went through something similar as a teenager. It’s hard to figure out who you are at that age when you feel your friends/society expects you to be a certain way. I was horrible and I lost my parents trust and one day I just snapped out of it. Keep in mind also, there is a part of the teenagers brain that stops functioning for a while and it’s the part that allows them to make rational decisions. Hormones, growing up and the pressure to fit in with those around them makes life for a teenager very hard. I hope she finds her confidence soon and that she realises at the end of it all, friends won’t always be there but her education will be. I think as parents the best thing you can do is try to be there for as someone she can trust but be mindful that she may sometimes need her space and don’t make her feel bad for that. Sometimes as adults we want to be left alone and don’t feel like doing anything and we get more agitated when someone says something about it. She probably feels pretty shitty about her behaviour already so try not to make her feel worse. Maybe go out as a family and do something that you know she enjoys?

Oh my heart hurts reading this having 2 girls myself. Don’t be hard on yourself. I think its about building that relationship again by doing things you can both enjoy together and building a foundation of friendship and trust

She will surely come round in time – she doesn’t know what she really wants herself at this stage in life. What you have taught her by example will win out. Give her time.

Oh the memories, you will get through this, just be patient, though it may be difficult.

Also sounds familiar to how I may have felt as a teenager (isolated) and as you arent at an emotionally mature stage of your life then she may not be able to understand her feelings enough to communicate them. A parent may think they have done everything they can, but that doesnt mean a child will feel loved or prioritised. I would suggest listening to her without judgement or criticism. It may take a while if she has already withdrawn or feels abandoned, but never give up on your daughter. She probably needs more love and support now more than ever.

She will come back, just give her time