An expecting mum has been left devastated after her best friend kicked her out of her wedding, because she’s pregnant and getting ‘too fat’.
The 27-year-old, who is pregnant with her first baby, has been best friends with Claire, 28, since they were in high school. Of course she was thrilled when Claire asked her to be Maid of Honour, and set out to make the lead up to the wedding extra special.
“I paid for the bridal shower, bachelorette party (a weekend trip), decorations, and other expenses, spending several thousand dollars,” the expecting mum explained. “While it was a lot of money for my husband and me, I wanted to make her big day perfect because she’s like family to me.”
Two months ago, she told Claire that she was pregnant, and while her bestie initially congratulated her, their relationship took a turn.
“She started acting distant afterward. She excluded me from conversations about the wedding and made passive comments about how ‘hard it is to coordinate’ when people are ‘distracted’. I brushed it off, thinking it was wedding stress.
“A few days ago, she sat me down and told me she didn’t want me in the wedding anymore. Her reason? I’m ‘getting too fat’ and she doesn’t want me in the pictures. She said she has a specific ‘vision’ for her wedding, and I no longer fit it. I was devastated. I asked if this was about my pregnancy, but she insisted it wasn’t personal. She said she was replacing me as MOH with another friend who fit her ‘aesthetic’.”
And that’s where things took another turn.
“I told her if I wasn’t in the wedding, I wouldn’t attend at all. I also handed her the receipts for everything I’d paid for and told her she or her fiancé needed to reimburse me since I’d only spent that money as her MOH. Claire flipped out, calling me selfish and accusing me of trying to ruin her wedding. She said it was ‘tacky’ to ask for the money back and that expenses like these were ‘my responsibility as MOH’. I reminded her that she removed me from that role, so those expenses were no longer mine.”
Since the fateful conversation, the mum-to-be says Claire, her fiancé and her family have been spamming her with calls and texts, accusing her of being petty and overreacting due to pregnancy hormones.
“They’re also saying I should’ve just let it go and written off the money because weddings are stressful, and Claire didn’t mean to hurt me.”
“My husband has been incredibly supportive and says I did the right thing. He’s furious at how Claire treated me and agrees that I shouldn’t be out thousands of dollars for a wedding I’m not part of.
“I feel heartbroken and humiliated by someone I thought was my best friend. Still, the constant backlash has made me second-guess myself. Am I the a**hole for standing up for myself and asking for reimbursement? Should I have just quietly stepped aside?”
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