Expenses like these are not the responsibility of the Maid of Honor at all ! Where in the world did she get that from ? She sounds to me like a calculated manipulative person and not a friend at all. Friends respect and care for each others feelings. Personally I wouldn’t dare to expect any money from any person for my wedding and I think you’re right by asking this money back.

Since when was it the responsibility of the MOH to pay for everything? She definitely deserves her money back.
I was kicked out of a friend’s wedding for refusing to cut my waist length her to a Bob to match the other bridesmaid. The bride’s hairdresser convinced her that it would look better and be easier for her (the hair dresser) to style our hair the same if mine was cut. So I totally understand about bridezillas and their aesthetic visions.

She should have been thankful to have a friend like you who was so supportive and helpful. She’s not a true friend. It’s unthinkable that someone who is supposed to be a best friend could be so petty. She should have to pay it back. It’s just so insulting and hurtful!

That is not a friend. You’re lucky to be rid of her., especially as you’re about to have the most important role of your life- Mom! Maybe she was a great when you were younger but is what it is. Not all people, no matter how important they were at one stage, are meant to be in our lives forever.

This friend is not a friend to you and is narcissistic and creepy. Write her a letter requesting your refund of all you have spent on her, or get someone to ask for it on your behalf.

Do yourself a favour and have nothing more to do with her. Good luck.

This friend is not a friend to you and is narcissistic and creepy. Write her a letter requesting your refund of all you have spent on her, or get someone to ask for it on your behalf.

Do yourself a favour and have nothing more to do with her. Good luck.

Wow! If this person was your so called best friend, I definitely wouldn’t want any enemies. You’re not the …hole she is for being so caught up in how her bridesmaids may look. That’s just plain wrong. You definitely need to get reimbursed but by the sounds of it I wouldn’t hold my breath. Plus, I’d block her and her family from ringing you especially seeing you’re pregnant. That person isn’t a friend. Find someone else but don’t talk to her again. That’s so hurtful.

I wouldnt make a fuss and would just leave her to it. Obviously for her the bridesmaids are simly for the visual and not selected because they are people that are important to her which in my mind is what it should be. There are many superficial people in the World

It was lovely of you to pay for the bridal shower, etc but not something that you should have done. You cant expect to be paid back for these things as it was your choice and like a gift.

You are absolutely not the a**hole for standing up for yourself and asking for reimbursement !! And you should NOT have just quietly stepped aside ? I’m glad your husband has been incredibly supportive and says you did the right thing, I’m glad he’s furious at how Claire treated you and agrees that you shouldn’t be out thousands of dollars for a wedding you are not part of. Time to take distance from this “friend” (she doesn’t deserve that title).

Definite case of Bridezilla. Wow, now you know what Claire is really like. You should definitely be getting a refund on your expenses. Really is a big ask to expect you to pay and be kicked off the wedding group. Very petty of the new bride to be. Take care of yourself.

It sounds like the original Maid of Honor valued the friendship with the bride more than the bride valued the same friendship. Who kicks out a dear friend because they are ‘too fat’ for whatever reason. Super petty after the MOH has gone to great lengths to help the bride have a great time in the lead up.

I would have asked for the money back too. I do not understand how people can do that to others (and even worse when they are friends). Very sad.

If I was in your shoes I would have asked for the money back too. You certainly should not have just stepped aside. I cannot believe a friend would do what she has done. You are not fat, you are pregnant. I hope you get back every cent and not attend the wedding.

Definitely ask for your money back and I would probably walk away from the friendship. She’s really not much of a best friend to do this to you! Some people have such a hide and no empathy it is insane. Probably best to learn that she isn’t much of a friend now anyways.

I would be insisting on getting my money back as I really think those expenses should have been paid for by her family and herself, not the MOH in the first place. However as you have been removed as the MOH then you definitely shouldn’t foot the bill.
The one good thing that comes out of this fiasco is that you have learned how shallow your ‘best friend’ really was and that cutting ties now will be beneficial in the future.
I do hope your pregnancy goes well and you and your husband revel in your newborn.
Cut this person out of your lives and have a wonderful life as a family together.

To start with it’s not the responsibility of the MOH to pay for everything. That should all be down to her parents. She’s not much of a friend if she is treating you this way and, yes, I do think it’s because you’re pregnant. I’m so glad that your husband agrees that you haven’t done anything wrong. The only person in the wrong is the bride. Her parents should pay you back if she doesn’t. She’s a friend I wouldn’t want in my life.

I don’t believe that a MOH is responsible for paying for anything for someone else’s wedding to begin with.
I think bridezilla is jealous that you being pregnant will take some of the limelight off her and she’s scared of losing any kind of attention.
She’s the a-hole for kicking out her “bestfriend” because of “aesthetics”.
I wouldn’t be attending the wedding, I would be asking for all my money back, I would be unleashing on the bride groom and their families and I would be cutting ties forever.
No mum, especially a pregnant or postpartum mum need to put up with narcissistic people like this.

The friend/bride sounds like a selfish brat! Who cares if her MOH is pregnant- it’s not about the bridesmaids anyway. All eyes will be on her. What, does she think she won’t get enough attention now? It’s extremely petty, even if her bestie hadn’t spent thousands of dollars, she’s being hurtful to someone who saw her as family. She should be ashamed!

You’ve learnt an expensive yet very valuable lesson. Be happy that you no longer have to waste your time on such a shallow individual. She has shown her true colours. This is not someone you should want around your child. Find someone more worthy of your time, money & friendship.

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  • • mom160270 replied
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  You have summed up exactly what I wanted to say.

I think you behaved in a way that is entirely fair. What a ridiculous reason to kick someone out of a wedding.