Tell her the wrong gender…lol.

I don’t think you did. She doesn’t have the right to pressure you like this. I hope she’s more excited about this baby once it arrives, I feel a bit sorry for her son as he can’t help his gender.

I feel sorry for Lena’s baby.

After all this kerfuffle it is obvious what both mothers are expecting, so either it will blow over like a storm in a teacup or you and your cousin will go back to be only talking occasionally. But I would most certainly be getting on with my life and being as happy as you can as none of us know what’s around the corner and being upset won’t be good for your unborn either.

Lena sounds like a selfish cow. She’s so lucky to be having a baby, so many can’t. Treasure that precious bundle. How can the gender even have an impact on the joy you have giving birth to a beautiful bundle of love? Clearly she has mental issues & the baby probably should never be left alone with her. Hopefully she grows up before the arrival of her baby

If you were never going to throw a gender reveal party, why should you tell Lena. She sounds like a spoilt brat but I hope when she holds her son in her arms, her disappointment will fade. You didn’t do anything wrong. You told her you were waiting until your baby is born and she should respect that. Let her cool her jets and see if she comes around. If not, then she shouldn’t be around you because she’s going to spoil your happiness

Wow! Lena sounds like a spoiled brat! Hope she gets that sorted and doesn’t become a horrible mother.

‘Lena’ sounds unreasonable and immature. I understand that gender disappointment is real, but you shouldn’t deflect this onto someone else’s happy situation, party or time. It you need OP create distance between you and her, and don’t let her wear you down over the gender reveals.

Do not take on her issues. Get distance between you and her – in fact I would not even bother with her.

‘Lena’ sounds very unreasonable and somewhat immature. Everyone has a right to not reveal their baby’s gender if they don’t wish to. I hope it’s just pregnancy hormones and she spends the rest of her pregnancy coming to a happier place about having a son.

OMG. I’m so sorry you’ve been put in this situation. Your sister in law is totally out of line and selfish. She IS so fortunate to be having a baby. To be mourning the daughter she is not having is so triggering and insensitive to me. Please don’t take on her crap. I wish you all the best

I’m sorry for her pain but it is not your job to ease her pain. Your pregnancy is not her pregnancy and the gender of your baby is none of her business. It sucks she’s disappointed but that’s something she needs to deal with, not take it out on you.

She sounds like a bully and possibly turn out be an unfit mother to her poor little baby boy that honestly didn’t pick her as his mum. Don’t let her interfere with your special time of becoming a mum of a beautiful baby.

You have done absolutely NOTHING wrong! Her behaviour saddens me for the little boy blessing to come. I hope she feels differently once the little miracle arrives. I acknowledge that pregnancy can change one’s emotions etc but I do hope she appreciates how lucky she is to have a baby at all. I’m not saying her feelings are invalid but she should focus on a healthy baby and let you enjoy your moment like you deserve. I hope you can continue to stand your ground and enjoy the surprise along with the rest of the family. May your pregnancy continue to be beautiful and that your little blessing arrives happy and healthy x

Omg! I can’t get over how entitled this woman is and how ungrateful she is as well. I know plenty of women that’d give their eye teeth just to have 1 baby that’s healthy. And yet here’s this person carrying on like a total loser because she’s having another boy! What gives her the right? She’s not grieving the loss of a child at all and all those people pandering to her are just as ridiculous as she is. If this is what she’s like I really pity her children. Don’t let her take away your joy and tell everyone else who thinks you’re not supporting her to go fly a kite. Congratulations and enjoy and I hope everything goes smoothly for you. Don’t bother with her at all. She’s just an attention seeker!!

So sorry you’re going through this!

Hormones are definitely high during this time and i think everyone just needs to let the dust settle and give it time before trying to fix it.

Just because you might be disappointed with your own baby’s gender doesn’t give you the right to take it out on others.

My husband and I knew the gender of our two babies but chose not to tell anyone but our parents as we didn’t want to hear the “well are you going to try for a third,” or “are you disappointed.”

It’s your Journey don’t let someone else disappointment spoil it for you. If she doesn’t want to help you celebrate well that’s her loss not yours.

It is common to pretend that being a horrible parent and dismissing your own child because of their gender is something we must affirm. She is being a bad mother and a bad relative.

I think Lena shouldn’t come to the baby shower either way.