I think you should let it go as addressing this might make the matter worse. Your daughter already had a mind about Mx being silly so no wonder she slipped out Miss but if i was the teacher and this happened the first time, i would ignore it or speak to the student privately.

I think the teacher addressed it wrong if it was an accident (once or twice could be done accidentally, just like miss/mrs). They should have done it in private away from the whole class or at least in quiet rather than directly in front of everyone otherwise it does feel like shaming the student. If it was a repeated misgendering then maybe I could understand addressing it in front of the whole class.

I think you would make this ‘storm in a teacup’ worse if you email the school or talk to the teacher involved or anything else. The embarrassment your daughter felt might be fleeting if you give it a chance to be, but keeping on talking about the subject will keep it to the forefront of your daughter’s mind. Why not wait and see what happens at school and in the meantime stop talking about it or saying what you think about the teacher and the subject.

Let it go for now and if your daughter is feeling embarrassed, tell her to have a private word with the teacher in question to apologise. Let her know it was a faux pas or slip of the tongue. It wasn’t disrespect of the teacher in question. I also think you should stop saying in front of your daughter, or any other children you may have, that it’s ridiculous the way people wish to be called nowadays.

It is an important courtesy to call people what they want to be called, but the teacher should probably understand that some of these “newish” addresses don’t come to mind as automatically as long established ones.

Just let it go. I don’t think this conversation between student and teacher needs to be drawn out.

It’s really unfair that your daughter has been shamed for a simple slip up. Accidents happens and she could have referred to them and mum or anything like MANY kids have done, it was a simple slip of a tongue. I think having a conversation with the teacher and asking them to not shame your daughter is a fair thing to do

Childrens brain can’t comprehend non – binary. I mean some adults can’t comprehend it. Like majority of us, we see Male or Female. It’s not right to call out a child I front of everyone for a slip up. The teacher may have let it go, maybe just sit back and see if the teacher starts to pick on your daughter, or if it is left alone.

This whole non-binary, etc, etc stuff is really getting out of hand. The daughter made an honest mistake and it was really wrong of the teacher to call her out on it in front of everyone. The teacher is totally at fault, however, I do think that making a big deal out of it now will only make things worse. Something so minor might actually be forgotten about. You need to wait and see if the teacher does anything else. It’s not a thing about being unkind. I get that everyone has a right to be addressed however they wish, but you can’t blame people for getting it wrong when you have literally made up a new form of address.

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  • • mom486197 replied
    • 07 Dec 2024 , 8:07 am

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  I totally agree with your comment, it is ridiculous that the teacher did this to the child. I remember things teachers did to me when I was younger and it really affected me and I think it still does. The teacher needs to realise she is a kid give her some grace for gods sake it’s not like it was continuous.

I would definitely say something. The teacher needs to stop making everything about her.
I am a traditionalist and born with morals and values and I could care less about pronouns. The world is worse off for it.

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  • • mom169700 replied
    • 05 Dec 2024 , 3:50 pm

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  Totally agree. I had never heard of MX until I read this article.

I have just found out my pet dog is gay and my pet cat is a lesbian and my fish in the tank are not mixing with each other and my other dog has a limp .What should I do.Is this a repeat of the question or story before us .If it barks is it a dog.

I am dick to death with this you are born either female or male if you want to dress as something else that’s fine but you can’t make everyone else go with your beliefs use your brains it’s just a word leave the child alone

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  • • jocey72 replied
    • 05 Dec 2024 , 2:06 pm

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  ???? agree completely. So sick of this subject and people trying to stand out and be different. Get a life!!!!

Personally I feel that the teacher is the adult and the 11 year old is just a child who made a mistake which doesn’t have to be taken too heavy/serious. The whole thing with gender identification and pro nouns can be hard to grasp, especially for a young child.
We as adults/parents have a task to explain using a person’s correct pronouns provides gender affirmation, signals mutual respect, and creates a more welcoming and tolerant environment. Being misgendered (i.e., being referred to with incorrect pronouns) can be an extremely hurtful and invalidating experience. Teachers could explain this too.

This is starting to get so out of hand.
Out of habit students call teachers Mrs/Miss/Ms and Mr, occasionally they’re going to pronounce Ms and Miss differently so throwing “Mx” into it as well if they don’t expect to get called something different occasionally they’re absolutely delusional.
I don’t think the mum has influenced the daughter, I think the student was embarrassed by what happened and didn’t mean it, and I think the teacher could have ignored it. Why do all people that identify as something different find the need to remind everyone every 5 minutes.

It sounds like you have influenced your daughter with your opinion and she was possibly being a bit stubborn. Are you sure she didn’t purposely say Miss? She was politely put in her place. Let is go. Children should be able to be disciplined at school without parents butting in at every moment. We’ve all done something wrong and been embarrassed at some stage. She will be more careful now. While you and her do not take this seriously it is not up to you. Just do it.

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 06 Dec 2024 , 5:25 am

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  I agree; the way the child was spoken to does not seem harsh to me and it was simply and directly pointed out to use the correct pronoun. I also agree with not making the issue bigger than it needs to be. It is a good opportunity to learn and to move forward.

I’d ask for a meeting with the school principal and said teacher. I find the teacher’s behavior ignorant, selfish and simply awful. Your child is a CHILD! The teacher, regardless of gender is an ADULT – act like one. If your child was misgendering in a provocative way, different, but what you write it was an innocent mistake. Regardless, if the teacher was truly that upset, he/she/it could have spoken to your daughter one-on-one after class. So over it. Kids shouldn’t have to deal with such stuff at such young ages., Speak up or your rights – and your child’s right will be lost.

What is happening I’m with the world! I think the teacher could have just let it slide. But also the girl shouldn’t be embarrassed for making a mistake. Id still sy something to the school tho, so maybe next time she doesn’t call a kid out. Do teachers ever mispronounce names?? I feel like this is the same thing.

Omg!! Things have just gotten crazier and crazier!! This is a child that misspoke. I don’t understand why this teacher made such a fuss about it. It’s all getting too complicated and kid’s brains must be swivelling with all this gender business. It was an innocent mistake and the teacher was wrong for chewing her out like that in front of classmates. She could have spoken to her after class but why make a big song and dance about it? I find this whole issue a big mess and it’s not worth the child worrying about it. Wokeness at its best!

The teacher could have spoken to the student in private. It had been only 12 weeks. Obviously the student has been calling the teacher Mx all that time and slipped up on this occasion. The teacher didn’t have to say “Really? I have been your teacher for 12 weeks now, you know my pronouns!” to the student. It comes across as over the top and not student friendly, not a person you can go to if you have a problem The student obviously knew she slipped up as soon as she said it. Show me 1 person that hasn’t slipped up in their life.

If it was an accident then there shouldn’t be any shaming to the child. But I think OP needs to change their attitude towards how people identify and pronouns. Her disapproving attitude will rub off on to kids and that’s not a great way to teach a child to approach people.