If this “girl” IDs as a wolf then so be it but I think the authorities need to be called in. Its dangerous for the other children to be attending school where a wolf is running free. Where the wolf is housed during the night do the owners have approval to keep a wolf as a pet and have a permit for a wild animal? Has the wolf been vaccinated and had proper vet care? Is the wolf getting a correct raw meat diet?
As the wolf has been raised in captivity obviously it cant be released into the wild but it needs to be removed from the home and sent to a wildlife scantury that can care for it correctly.

The whole furry epidemic is getting out of control. There are legit kids out there who are identifying in this way. My daughter has a friend who is apparently a fox and she gave my daughter a cat mask. My daughter at least is not right into it and just enjoys dressing up sometimes. These kids obviously need help. It’s not normal.

Talk to your daughter about reality & fiction. Sadly you can’t say anything to parents or school as you’ll be called whatever it is to be against people wanting to be animals! How sad is our society that we are even discussing this? 🤷‍♀️

This is really a bizarre new trend amongst kids, tens and even adults. If it’s not a wolf it’s a cat or a baby or a lion or something other it’s not normal.. it’s ok to have school dress up days when everyone else is doing it but it’s not ok to encourage this type of behaviour it’s causing mental illness.

I wouldn’t worry. It’s just a stage she is going through. In 2-3 years time she will be interested in boys or girls and this will divert her attention.
I have a 40 year old male relative who has announced he is a Furry. I think that is a little more serious at that age rather than 10 years old.

My husband ask me what a furry was? As a mother I already know. so I asked AI to explain it to my husband.
A furry is someone who is interested in the “furry fandom,” which is a subculture focused on anthropomorphic animals – animals with human characteristics. These characteristics can include the ability to speak, walk on two legs, wear clothes, and exhibit human-like intelligence and emotions. Furries often create animal characters, called fursonas, to represent themselves, and may express this interest through art, writing, online interactions, or by creating fursuits (costumes). While some may associate furries with sexual interests, the majority of furries are primarily interested in the creative, social, and artistic aspects of the fandom, For many furries, the fandom provides a safe and inclusive space to explore their identities and connect with like-minded individuals. Answers via AI from Google information

It’s one thing to play pretend and therefore pretend to be a wolf, especially as many 10 year olds are still playing imaginative games and pretending to be things. But when it becomes “ I believe I am actually a wolf” and especially now pressuring others to do this too, nah that’s not ok.
Glad the school has banned her wearing wolf stuff most of the time, but those free dress days etc it should also be banned still.
My kids school is very clear with banned and inappropriate clothing being not acceptable even on free dress days and will send kids home to change if they turn up in inappropriate things.
I’d be unhappy about my child being friends with a child who was saying they were a furry and a wolf and pressuring them to do the same. I’d definitely be discouraging the friendship.
How do you even play with someone who just digs holes, howls and barks at break times?!

This is weird and not ok. I would keep my daughter away from her if this was around my daughter. That is not normal and if the school doesn’t intervene and her parents think that is ok, then the only thing you can do is to protect your own kids from this, before it’s too late.

This is all very weird to me. I am 62 and it scares me a lot. I just dont get it. It has gone to far, some schools are even accommodating the “i identify “ fad. I was online trying to find a stubby holder for my husband and found one with “i identify as water”.
Your daughter it being manipulated by this child.
Does she really want to do this or is she being bullied to do so.
Yes some say its a phase, but adults are doing it too.
Id sit her down and find out if she wants to do it. Find out if she is being bullied.
In every way adults can identify as anything they want.
This world is getting weirder each day

Honestly, I had to look up what the word therian means (english is not my first language) and I’m surprised that a then year old comes up with this term. Personally I wouldn’t be directly alarmed when your daughter is given a tail at the party, however the pressuring is more alarming to me. I initially would start with talking with your daughter about what she likes about this girl.

Imagination is a wonderful thing but when it’s not okay time and we want to identify as a wolf I feel kids are being led down the wrong path. Absolutely fine to play at being fur creature pet what ever but there’s a limit if you want it all the time I will make up a bed outside food bowls water bowls toilet area let’s see how commited to this you really are hopefully the play time will stay as play time no wolf in the house….

After hearing a friend telling about a grown woman at a dinner party that “is a furry that identifies as a cat”, who was meowing throughout the meal, I’d keep a close eye on it. Hopefully it is just a phase but usually this is with younger children. I’d be talking to my child openly about it just being a phase that will maybe pass and she should not feel pressured.

I am probably very old school as I don’t understand this stuff at all. I strongly believe that the social media is affecting young people and children to do or think very weird stuff. It is very serious problem, because the kids don’t know those stuff they are talking about and are very easy to be manipulated and manipulate and use stuff like that in their favor.

My comment was meant to be a reply to xemsi’s comment. The reply button doesn’t seem to be working properly.

Very well said, I agree with your comment.

It’s understandable to feel concerned, especially when there’s pressure involved. Kids do go through phases, but being pushed into an identity — particularly at such a sensitive age — is worrying. I’d definitely be keeping an open dialogue with my daughter, encouraging her to make her own choices, and if the pressure continues, gently involving the school might be necessary. It’s about protecting her autonomy without making it a bigger drama than it needs to be.

I think it’s a perfectly normal, not at all permanent way for developing minds to explore their inner selves through play and creativity. Not everything needs to be considered as ‘identifying’ but rather, stepping into another perspective.
I understand a parent being concerned though, about any behaviour that is seemingly the result of peer influence. We’d all prefer our young ones to march to their own drum and not partake in what we consider to be strange behaviour, but providing there’s no safety risks… I’d let this happen.

If I were the mum I would be telling my daughter she is a girl and not a wolf and there is no need for her to pretend to be one to be friends with this girl. She should just be herself and remain true to herself and let us all let common sense and respect for one another prevail.

I really wouldn’t be too worried. You write that it was her birthday recently and the friend bought your daughter a tail. To be honest I don’t know how often my kids were given dress up clothes on a birthday party under which an unicorn tail. And at school the friend of your daughter receives normal boundaries like banning her wearing wolf items to school. That the friend still wears them on party days/world book day/non uniform is not inappropriate. And does your daughter in fact spend a lot of time with this girl outside of school ?

I would just let her be, she is 10 and it seems harmless from what I have read. This article was very interesting but kids are just being kids and imaginary play is still very important at this age. If you are worried about maybe seek some professional advice first to see if this is normal behaviour at this age before reacting.