'My Daughter's Name Is Elsa - My Ex Wants To Name His Baby Anna'

A furious mum says she’s set on sabotaging the relationship between her daughter and her ex and his partner’s new baby, all because of the name they’ve chosen.

The 31-year-old mum-of-one says her 35-year-old ex-husband got married six months ago, and his 25-year-old wife fell pregnant not long after. They recently revealed they’re having a baby girl.

“I am a huge fan of the movie Frozen, so when our daughter was born six years ago I wanted to name her Elsa and my husband agreed to that,” the woman explained on reddit.

“I know it is a little dumb to name your kids after things like that but it is not a super unusual or ugly name, it is pretty and it means a lot to me. My husband and I divorced when our daughter was three, we don’t hate each other but we are not best friends either.

“The issue with the new baby is that he explained to me that after he told his new wife the story behind the name of Elsa, she proposed that their daughter should be named Anna, so they could be sisters like in the movie.”

The very thought of her daughter’s half-sibling being named Anna has infuriated the mum, who has tried everything to stop it happening.

“For me it is totally unfair that they are stealing my naming process from me like that. What if I have another daughter? It would have been perfect to name her Anna and now I wouldn’t be able to do it without it looking like I am stealing from them. My husband doesn’t even like Frozen that much. He always said his favorite Disney animated movie was Bolt. I don’t know if the mother likes Frozen but I am totally sure she doesn’t like it as much as me.

“I demanded to him that they choose another name but he thinks I am acting crazy. I called my divorce lawyer but she doesn’t think there is anything we can do about this. My mother just laughed at me. I feel so defeated.”

The mum says she became so enraged that she threatened to make sure the girls didn’t have any sort of relationship, thwarting her ex’s plan for them to have a sisterly bond.

“My sadness turned into anger and, in an impulse of rage, I called my ex-husband. I told him that if they insisted with using that name, I would do everything I could to sabotage the relationship between our daughter and theirs, so they never were real sisters like Elsa and Anna. He got really angry and said horrible things to me.

“I immediately regretted saying what I said and it is not true, I would never do that, but this whole situation has been so horrible for me and now he is really angry too. I think that I am ultimately in the right about why they shouldn’t use that name but I was wrong in saying what I said. I want to insist on them picking another name but without going too far.”

She’s now wondering if she’s being the a**hole in the situation. Let us know what you think in the comments below.

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30 Comments

- - mom443421 said
  - 09 Nov 2023
    12:07 pm
It shouldn’t really matter to her at all – it’s their child.

- - Lovely Life said
  - 03 Feb 2023
    12:16 pm
I personally would not call my children those names I really dont like Frozen I watched it once with my kids

- - romvar said
  - 08 Jan 2023
    9:03 am
I don’t think the mum is any position to “Demand they choose another name”. How ridiculous. They can do whatever they want.

- - mom468034 said
  - 28 Dec 2022
    10:47 am
So you can use a name from Frozen but no one else can?! And you’d rather destroy a family relationship than not get your own way? This is bonkers… people can pick whatever name they like, and if she has another daughter in the future, she can call that whatever she likes ….
personally, I’m sick of Frozen and think it’s a bit naff to pick names from it, but it’s your choice not mine, and your ex’s wife has the choice too. Live and let live, there are bigger problems in the world than name-picking!

- - MummaD said
  - 26 Dec 2022
    6:41 pm
Mum is being a a$$hole. She has no right to demand that her ex can’t use the name Anna. I think it is sweet he is trying to bond his Daughter with her half sister and their names but personally Elsa isn’t a name I’d use in the first place. Nothing wrong with Anna though. If he didn’t want to be cliche, he could use a name that could be shouldn’t into Anna like Annabelle or something like that.

- - mom265671 said
  - 21 Dec 2022
    10:30 pm
You cant tell someone else what they can and cant name their child, it is what it is

- - mom465794 said
  - 19 Dec 2022
    2:25 pm
Everyones entitled to name their kids whatever they want I guess

- - rovermum said
  - 19 Dec 2022
    10:12 am
Ooh, you got nasty! I understand the emotions behind it, but not okay. If you had left it alone, it’s quite possible they might have come up with another name.

- - cassy26 said
  - 18 Dec 2022
    9:44 am
I actually think it’s sweet that they wanted to call their daughter Anna and that they want both girls to share the sisterly bond.

- - mom486400 said
  - 17 Dec 2022
    9:13 pm
It’s just a name and the name doesn’t make the child or the family. It’s best to focus on your daughter and ignore the situation.

- - sars_angelchik said
  - 17 Dec 2022
    4:27 pm
She can’t make that choice for her daughter- it wouldn’t be fair to her. It’s obvious that there’s still a lot of hurt feelings there which seems like the root of the issue.

- - mom93821 said
  - 17 Dec 2022
    1:24 pm
Relationships are more important than names. Best to move on from the issue of names and focus on ensuring relationships work.

- - tessie said
  - 17 Dec 2022
    11:59 am
It’s just a name and if you keep going you will only be hurting yourself. Just let it go and be happy with the beautiful daughter you have. No-one can ever take the love you have for your daughter or for the movie away from you.

- - yahoo_lou said
  - 17 Dec 2022
    11:01 am
That is ridiculous!

- - AdysMum said
  - 17 Dec 2022
    10:18 am
Are you being the A hole? Yes. It’s just a name.. in the grand scheme of things, wouldnt you want your daughter to be happy and have a cute bond with her sister? Regardless of how you feel, you dont have the right to demand someone change their babies name.

- - mom489365 said
  - 17 Dec 2022
    9:52 am
Sounds like she needs to take a breath. You can’t sabotage a kid’s relationship with their father over another child’s name. Anna is a common name.

- - Danicastefanie said
  - 17 Dec 2022
    8:53 am
Sounds like she needs to grow up.

- - TraceyGail said
  - 17 Dec 2022
    7:42 am
She sounds very controlling and immature. What a ridiculous drama over nothing of her concern.

- - Ellen said
  - 17 Dec 2022
    7:12 am
This mum sounds unreasonable to me, they are free to name their baby whatever they like

- - Motherhoodmama said
  - 17 Dec 2022
    7:06 am
The mum sounds so petty and immature. Let them name the baby whatever they like.