I can’t believe he would do that to his own daughter. The mother is definitely right to send her to the camp to help her lose some weight. 95kgs at 14 sounds super excessive. Hopefully she can get things back to normal.

Your concern is valid. Your daughter is seriously overweight. She can’t be happy with this. Her health is being compromised. You should take her to a G.P. & get a thorough health check-up for her. A referral to a paediatrician as well. A report / recommendation addressed to her father might perhaps do the trick.

At around 14, children get to have more say in the sort of contact they have with their parents. If the soccer camp doesn’t help, or if her father tries to put a stop to it, I’d get a legal opinion for your daughter – she can ask for the plans to be changed so she’s spending less time with a parent who doesn’t have her best interests at heart. No guarantee it will change much but it will be noted that her father isn’t doing the best for his daughter’s health and that she doesn’t want the situation.

definitely not the a**hole. Definitely a mum who is doing everything they humanly can to care for their child and their child’s health and well-being.
Our relationship with food and weight is life long and it takes support to build this into a healthy relationship.
So sad that people still live by if it’s on your plate you must eat it … I understand waste etc and don’t promote that but at the same time listening to our own body is soo important and something we should be instilling in our children.

I think it’s a valid response – she’s being a loving mum and is concerned about her daughter. I don’t see the problem if her daughter wants to attend the camp – the exercise and less exposure to junk food will be food for her physical and mental health!

I think your concerns are very valid. Your EX should not be feeding her so much junk food. That is terrible

How horrible for your daughter to be exposed to so much junk food and made to eat whatever rubbish food he puts on her plate. I hope she can use her voice and request better eating options. What a great idea of sending her to soccer camp hopefully this helps.

Wow! So NOT TA here. Surely the man can see there’s an issue with a young person being so heavy. He is risking her life with this and causing long term damage to her relationship with food. I support mum in this situation. I hope the soccer camp gets traction and young miss has a wonderful time.

Your daughters weight is of big concern and her father should realise she needs less calories than him. You are not being a a**. you are being an attentive parent and a concerned parent. Seeing he didn’t want to listen or talk to you about your concerns, he now has to suck it up while she is on soccer camp. It’s obvious that your daughter is interested in going to soccer camp or she would have balked at the idea. Keep up the good parenting and one day your daughter will thank you for looking out for her wellbeing

I think your concerns are completely valid and that he should acknowledge its for her health

I think she’s showing appropriate concern for her daughter’s health. How does her daughter feel about the food/weight situation? Could she talk to her dad with her mum to be clear she’s unhappy being stuffed, and with lousy food to boot?

Your ex may be in denial about his daughters weight and how he is feeding her which if left, will become a long term health battle for your daughter. Comfort eating is very dangerous and costly habit and you are right to be concerned. Can you sit down and chat with him about it? Or maybe send your prepared food with your daughter when she visits her dad?

Probably have to sit down and have a chat with him about her health issue

Might be a bit tough him not being able to see her, but he doesn’t seem to be caring about her health