Personally I don’t like gender reveals and don’t think gender reveal parties are needed.
Personally I also think that when you throw a party the host should fund it. Unless a group comes together and decides to throw a party together whereby by all toss in and have a voice in all facets of the organisation of the party.
In the end it’s up to each invited guest if they want to attend this party under their conditions yes or no

I’d be happy to pay that if they’re not expecting a gift!

Personally I feel that when you’re organising a party you pay for it and in regards to gifts I like to have the attitude not to expect anything and to be happy with anything you get (even when you don’t really like it).
Of course those who’ invited and don’t like the fact they have to pay, simply don’t have to come

Its super easy……Just dont go.

I’m not a fan of gender reveals in general, so I’d probably find it a bit awkward being asked to pay to go to one. It isn’t usual to ask people to pay to attend a party. That’s what the host is supposed to do.

I’d rather spend the $20 on a gift. However I never had a baby shower or gender reveal, as these just weren’t important to me. Each to their own?

If you invite someone to a party you are organising it’s just plain rude. I’d rather have this at home and just ask people to bring a plate or drinks instead of a gift. If they want to do something so fancy, they need to pay for it themselves

I mean maybe I’m a tight purse but I’m not paying $20 to find out what someone’s baby is – food or not … I’ll just wait to hear via the grapevine. Gender reveals along with cake smashes are so overated!!

Considering that those invited have been told not to bring a gift then I wouldn’t mind paying $20 to have some fun time with all our friends.

I didn’t even organise a baby shower, let alone think about a gender reveal party and our wedding was simple without any extravagance

It would have been better if she requested $20 as a gift for the bub and put it towards the food without telling anyone.

Can you give me the address for $20 all you can eat I will be in that .

If it’s a meal (and drinks, etc) at a venue rather than the backyard as many reveals are I’d much prefer to help out with $20 and not buy a gift which may or may not be used. I’m time poor and removing one of the things…..shopping with kids, is a boon for me. Many many times cash is asked for at a wedding, why not a reveal? And $20 is pretty reasonable as I’d normally be spending around $40-50.

Lol tell your friend to get fxxxxx. Gender reveal parties are such an unnecessary waste of everyone’s time and money, if they can’t afford to have one then maybe they shouldn’t have one at a catered venue if at all.

Yeah I don’t think you can ask guests to help pay for the party. Maybe if the money was going towards something for the baby.
Just don’t have the party if you need guests to pay for it.

I think a lot of people do this when they’re younger, but once you get to life stages like marriage and babies, it feels a bit rude. Mind you, it’s not an outrageous amount of money.

I think it’s totally reasonable, especially if the guests aren’t bringing a gift which I imagine would be more than $20. You’ll struggle to get a pub lunch and drink for that price!
Maybe it’s a newer thing, but I’ve been to a few backyard barbies where one guest has brought along a bunch of meat to smoke and asked everyone else to chuck in $10 or so. The contribution really isn’t much to have a fun arvo with your mates, and knowing one person isn’t significantly out of pocket.

I am still unsure of who actually enjoys these parties… seem to me that is social pressure why they do it. Anyway $20 is less than a present so I would pay that amount instead of wasting my time looking for a present

How ridiculous honestly. That is so rude and unacceptablefor me.

How rude! I would very kindly decline to attend.
I know times are tough, but seriously