I agree with others that you need to tell him he needs to get a job and you are going to be the stay at home parent.
Sadly if you cant sort this issue out it will cause a lot of resentment and your relationship will start to fall apart.

Yeah reading this article another time I think so too that it may be time to turn the roles around for this couple; he can become the major breadwinner and she could become the stay at home mum looking after their child and house. With her being pregnant and a baby coming this might be quite suitable too at this moment. Alternatively I like the idea of sending him to work and getting a child minder or nanny who can also clean too.

Tell your husband you will give up work and he can go to work to earn the money and you will clean the house. If he doesn’t agree to that take your daughter and go to a friends or relatives place for a few days, have no contact with him (for your own sanity) then go home and see if he enjoyed being on his own. You will find out if your husband values you or is just a lazy sod.

Ah, I think this, after money, is the number one argument for couples?! At the end of the day, he’s showing a lack of compassion, empathy and respect of nothing else as it does not sound like you’re being unreasonable… is it possible he thinks this is ‘woman’s work’… it is giving that impression… this isn’t a partnership…I cannot see it getting better… if he won’t change, which is unlikely… you really need to think about what messaging you want to give your children in their lives…

You’d be better off sending him to work and employing a sitter, who might clean a little when your daughter is having a sleep. At least you could find someone who would give her attention. Otherwise, he is teaching her by example to be lazy and she might start playing up simply for attention she needs and should have.

This is what men are born to do just sit around and look good.You can join in and do nothing also.

This doesn’t sound like an equal partnership. I would sit down and have an open and honest discussion with your husband in which yyou share both expectation and desires with each other. There’s nothing wrong with dividing the tasks in a certain way, but it should be fair and reasonable. I hope you can work it out together, but seek professional help when you can’t

I would be putting my foot down now. If he doesn’t do the work around the house you expect then it’s time to get in a Counceller and send him back to work doing anything. Any money he brings in goes to cleaners, babysitters, etc. This problem isn’t going to go away, it is just going to get worse. Either he pulls his weight in the house, or you get a permanent housekeeper who helps with the babies and he goes back to work.

Professional services and supports should indeed be used in this relationship as the family dynamic and distribution of housework is not equal. Receiving individual and joint support together is important otherwise individuals and relationships do not thrive. No one should have to tolerate this type of unfair behaviour and lack of responsibility in a relationship.

Tell him if he doesn’t want to clean since he’s at home all day then he needs to get a job so you can afford a housekeeper/nanny. Otherwise when you do the shopping, just buy what you and your child eats and let him buy his own. You don’t pay for his games or alcohol I hope. If so stop that at once. If he wants to act like a child then treat him like one

He needs to go back to work to pay for the housekeeper they so badly need.

Sounds stereotypical to me. Parenting is tough and i think its needs to be a shared responsibility whether male or female.

It’s disappointing to see stay-at-home dads still facing these outdated stereotypes. Being at home doesn’t mean doing “nothing”—it means constant work that often goes unnoticed. Parenting is a full-time, unpaid job that requires patience, organization, and emotional labor. Dads deserve the same respect as moms in this role. Maybe communication is the issue here. Sit down, share your expectations, and discuss the workload. If there’s imbalance, address it together rather than pointing fingers. Families thrive on teamwork and mutual respect. Let’s stop undervaluing the essential work done at home, regardless of who does it. It’s time to break the stigma.

Wow i am quite shocked reading this article hearing that the stay at home dad doesn’t pull his weight. It should be an equal partnership and both parents should be doing their fair share of the chores. I would be at my wits end too, this is just not acceptable. If she is unable to sit down with him and work through this, perhaps they need to seek professional help to talk through this as the dad doesn’t think he is doing anything wrong and is putting the blame on the mum. I would be furious.

This does not sound like a fair arrangement at all and it’s probably just going to get worse once a second child is in the picture. If he doesn’t want to work then he pulls his weight at home. You’re pregnant and working full time. Where’s your two hours off to play video games? Or your chance to sleep in? Once the new baby comes along is he going to be the one getting up to it at night? I think you both need to sit down and talk through your expectations now.

Damn. She really needs to throw back how she works a full time job. He wouldn’t be able to stay home without her income. I love reading AITA posts, but this one seems like rage bait. There is no one in the world who would say a pregnant, full time working mum of a toddler should also fully take on the house up keeping, bar a few odd jobs.

Wow, if the roles were reversed, I guarantee he would expect to walk in to a tidy house and dinner on the table. But because it’s him, he expects to just have to ‘babysit’ a little and play the rest of the time? When I was a on maternity leave, I would do housework all morning around my kids, play with them after lunch, put them down for a nap and take an hour or 2 to rest and then I would do more housework and get dinner ready. As the main breadwinner, going to work IS her contribution. She is keeping a roof over their heads, he needs to keep it clean!

He should be looking after the house more, especially since you are pregnant and coping with working, cooking, looking after your daughter when home. It is not much to ask him to do some work in the home instead of playing video games. You must be so tired and emotionally drained. Time for him to step up.

He sounds like a lazy big kid that needs to man up. He should be taking the little one to parks and playgroups. getting most everything done as any normal stay at home parent does. Maybe game time should be in the evening before bed. It’s very sad that he is also not considering the pregnancy and tiredness Does he have a mother that can speak to him?

Get off your arse you lazy git. I am 65yr old semi-retired and babysit 3 grandchildren and my home is clean and tidy so what is your excuse.