Wow, I’m sorry to hear he’s so disrespectful and not understanding.

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 17 May 2023 , 7:54 am

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  Very disrespectful indeed, not promising for their relationship

I would be hooking him up to one of those labor simulators & make him feel what it’s like giving birth with no drugs & I reckon he might just pay that bill plus all future bills for the rest of your life, particularly if you have more babies

That’s a bit much.
She carried the child and pushed it out. He had the “luxury” of putting it in her so he should help pay for the bills.
Men honestly have no idea how much pain a woman’s body goes through!

I don’t know how have an epidural during birth and an additional nights stay in hospital is considered to be a luxury, sometimes it is needed pure and simple. Each pregnancy and labour is different from another and will never always be the same and can’t always be treated the same. I think you may need to consider some counselling and this will probably be an issue in the future for arguments and such.

Wow…..that is unbelievable

This is why being single is better…FFS…

Her husband sounds like a self centred twit. He has no right to emotionally abuse his wife this way. I’d love him to sustain an injury with his manhood and have to go through medical treatment without medication to stop the pain then see how he feels after that for behaving the way he did to his wife. I would leave him.

Thats ridiculous! That poor mother. Having a new born baby is hard enough but having an asshole partner on top. We all know he would have had the epidural if he was in labour.

That is just crazy. How could he do that. I’m sure he would have called for the epidural after the first five minutes of labour. You deserve better than that.

Thats outright crazy expecting the mum to pay for the epidural, the child is both of yours and im guessing the husband will be the same while mum is on maternity leave and not able to have an income or savings. Going to be a huge issue really quickly, unless you sit down and talk it all through. Equality vs equity discussion.

I feel like this will get bought up in many arguments to come.

Your country is the mega a$$hole for charging so much! Your husband is a close second! And for him to not talk to you… I hope this doesn’t throw negativity out there towards your baby. I’ve always struggled to bond with my eldest for a number of reasons, one of them being my husband and I arguing about his parents staying with us from prior to the birth until after and him showing favour to the the whole time!

No, he’s the wrong one. Wow!

I’d be upset too. I know a friend in a similar situation, and it did end her marriage. I think the real problem here is not so much the money, more him seeing medical care as a “luxury”. At the very least, I’d be looking for counselling.

It sounds like your marriage was always in trouble. You mught say you share money, but having separate accounts and your “own savings” proves this untrue.

This is such a tough question to answer because from a reader’s perspective I don’t know much about your marriage and whether there are any other issues to consider or if this is a one-off. I hope your husband reflects on his strange stance and realizes that he is being ridiculous in this instance. Having a child together means working together for the sake of the child and the family.