This is really weird behaviour from adults.

Wow that’s super creepy, surly they don’t want their grandkids to hear them! If they were doing it quietly they wouldn’t have to switch rooms

That’s pretty bad. The father should ship them into an old person’s home!
I wouldn’t want my kids exposed to those sorts of sounds, they should be more respectful.

I’d start researching old folks homes! I know you made a promise to your late wife, but honestly, I don’t think she would like her parents to mistreat you and your children! She wouldn’t approve of them making snide comments, disrespecting you, and causing issues with and for your children. If she were still alive today, you could probably discuss moving them on and she would probably agree. Nobody should have to live with entitled people. My MIL is like that and I can promise you that if she was living with us when my husband passed she would be out the door the very next day!

This made me laugh a little. Is that wrong?
I think the Dad has come up with a pretty good solution

Are they I their 70’s or children….good on you dad for keeping your late wife’s wishes but they have to go

Wow, the Grandparents are the A@#holes. They are acting like spoilt little children.

Sounds like they are being rude to me. They can change their behaviour and habits or move into the grandaughters’ old room, or move out! You’ve told them the noise is scaring their grandson and yet they persist. I’m sure your wife hadnt envisaged this scenario. You have to advocate for the kids who live there now, not just the ‘old enough to know better’ adults.

No I think they are the rude ones

The inlaws are being disrespectful and inconsiderate and the father needs to put his kids first.
I understand that he’s made a promise to his late wife but he needs to lay down the ground rules for his childrens sake and if the grandparents don’t care about the children enough to follow them then its on them, not him..

Difficult situation but you have to talk to them and let the kid tell them how scary it has been for him hearing such noise. Be considerate. Or maybe have a granny flat for them if you can afford it…poor dad

I would not know where to begin with this one!

Realistically we might suggest for them to move out, but this may be hard because of he promised his late wife to take care of them. However there are different ways we can take care for our elderly parents. My mum is 87yrs old, my dad passed away this year so she’s alone and still lives in a 5 bedroom house. My 3 sisters who live in the Netherlands go each a day/weekend a week yo her. They arrange doctor visits, physio, help in the house, gardeners etc whilst supporting her in decision making to move. That’s caring too

Well if they are not going to respect the house rules then it’s time for them to go. Seriously that’s so inconsiderate! Give them a warning then ask them to leave if it’s not respected.

No you’re not an a**hole at all, good on you for not throwing them out. You should have the say in your own house. You could even place a trailer or build a shed in the garden

It would scare me too haha. But very true a little discretion wouldnt hurt. Its not appropriate

A little discretion goes a long way. Very inconsiderate of the in-laws, they very sound entitled. I feel for the Son-in-law.

The in-laws appear to be very entitled and ungrateful. I’d ask them to move rooms or move out.

Wow what an awkward situation!

The solution offered is well thought out, I’d be saying that if they can’t be respectful and/or change rooms then perhaps they should start looking for new accommodation as they obviously need their own place for their alone time

I think those inlaws need to move out.