An expecting mum has been left devastated after her meddling mother-in-law insulted her weight and her ability to be a good mum.
The 26-year-old is expecting her first baby with her husband Felix, 27, in just eight weeks. Like any expecting parents, they’re excited about getting everything ready for their little one, including the nursery.
“Everything with the nursery went pretty smoothly pretty fast! We agreed at the start what kind of vibe we wanted to go with it and it’s pretty much already done,” she explained.
The mum-to-be, who is 32 weeks pregnant, admits her mother-in-law has always been a ‘bit of a nightmare’ – which included telling her that she should ‘lose some weight’ because it isn’t healthy for the baby. Even though the her mother-in-law knows she’s has previously struggled with an eating disorder.
“In the past I’ve kept my mouth shut and let Felix deal with her. As the nursery has almost been completed, she’s suddenly decided to invite herself around more – I work from home currently, she comes in on the regular, asks me when I’m going to have lunch and, “oh could you just pop me something in too!” and then will wander into the nursery and start rearranging things.
“I know this sounds stupid but once she literally bought an IKEA bag full of stuff that she put in there. It doesn’t match. But I’ve never said anything really beyond, “Oh, thanks so much for the thought” etc.
“Yesterday when she came around uninvited, she looked me up and down and said “Really? Joggers? Thank god Felix isn’t here” and then walked into the nursery and started asking me where the pillow she’d put in the crib had gone, why I’d taken out the fairy lights hanging on the wall right by it, etc. I explained that they were potential safety hazards to the future baby and that I’d taken them out.”
This didn’t go down well, with the soon-to-be grandmother unleashing on her daughter-in-law.
“She started with, “Oh, well, I’ve had three children” and “I really think you should take more of my advice” and then looked me in the eyes and said “You’re really not going to be a good mother at this rate”.
“I don’t know if it was the pregnancy hormones but I just stared at her for a moment and then told her to get out of the house. I’d been up all night and had loads of work and wasn’t in the mood. She got very uptight about it and then left.
“Felix says he’s going to talk to her and tell her that she shouldn’t be reorganising anything without our permission, but I don’t know if it was just the hormones and I’m being unreasonable. Am I the a**hole?”
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