Grandparents come from a different time, it would be difficult for her to see her grandson in a dress. She probably realises the issues it would raise if it ever became public. Having said that, your son comes first, if you and your partner are fine with it then it’s fine

The parents did the right thing. The son will forever remember that his parents had his back and accepted his true self.

She can say what she likes in her own home and not yours.

Good on you for standing up for your son.

Maybe respect is lacking from a parties. Yes there ate generation gaps with different opinions, but always have respect.

I just think it doesn’t work any grandparent living with a family unless they are willing to not interfere in how the house is run, or in what the children do. She interfered and made rude judgements so after a conversation if she still did this she’d then have to move on

Parents did what they thought were right for their kid, we are no one to judge anyone.

I feel for the son. He’s Grandma should not be belittling or bullying him but accepting him how he is. Good on the parents for not telling their son what he should or shouldn’t wear

I’m glad they stuck up for their son but also very hard for older generations to understand

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  • • mom89445 replied
    • 29 Oct 2022 , 5:05 pm

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  Hit the mail on the head there. Grandmas come from a different era…… and although her attitude is wrong, it was probably the attitude she was raised with back in the day.

Mothers of mothers and mother-in-laws always do what the parents don’t want them to do, let’s face it.

The article just started with, “My mother-in-law….” Nothing else is needed hahaha. Mother-in-laws live to do whatever their daughter-in-laws dislike and disagree to. Its just FACTS.

Grandparents need to learn to stay out of it, it’s up to the parents to look after their children and allow them to express themselves. My son has two sisters and he likes to wear nail polish the same as them. It’s absolutely fine

I think it’s really important to support your kids’ choices – and that’s what they’re doing.

I think if he was upset by her comments, it’s fair to pull the grandparent up on it. They shouldn’t be upsetting their grandchildren. I think I’d react the same way as a parent

You are very good to your son. Grandparents come from a different time. I’m glad parents are more willing to accept kids differences. Nothing wrong with dressing up.

Dressing up box is great play. Also who cares whqt you wear, so long as you are happy? It isnt hurting anyone.

You sound like super parents, non judgy, and backing each other up. You spoke up for yr son and the MIL still kept up the toxic response- sge had her chance and blew it. Sad that she had to drag more family into it, it is no one’s business but yours! But MIL is the one who loses out here. Good on you for sticking to what you believe in.

Perhaps the parents should have pretold grandma about the dresses and not left it just a surprise. On saying that she should have got the hint that it was okay for him to wear dresses after the first time where mum showed their acceptance. Grandma will have to deal with it or lose her family.

I think it was the right move to have a conversation with the grand mother. I would probably have given the grand mother another chance before I asked her to stay somewhere else.

I agree with this young boys parents. No it’s not easy to see your grandson wearing a dress but what about a granddaughter wearing jeans? I don’t see a problem when the child is in their own home is Mum and Dad are okay with it. Good on the parents for putting their sons feelings first. There will always be conflict with how you raise your children but the big emphasis is they are your children.