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Kids should be free to express themselves, especially in the comfort of their own home, but when one grandma steps in and shares her opinion, was this couple right to kick her out?

One mum shares how she wants her son to be free to express himself, however he chooses, “My son is 6 and likes to wear dresses sometimes indoors. And we just do not care.”

“If he comes out as trans, gay, whatever my husband and I 100% support him and love him the way he is,” she revealed in her heartfelt post on reddit.

Her mother-in-law had arrived to stay for an extended period, while she was in between moving houses, “My MIL was planning to stay over for a few weeks before she moves houses. The second day she was here my son wears a dress. MIL makes a screwy face and asks my husband what he’s doing out of our son’s earshot. I didn’t quite hear what my husband said but MIL kept a screwy face for the rest of the day but made no more comment.”

Her mother-in-law didn’t get the hint, and started again, “A couple of days later he wears a dress again. This time MIL turns to our son and says in a very judge-y and mean tone ‘why don’t you go put some jeans on? Why do you want to wear a dress?’.”

Her son was upset at his grandma’s comment, “He had tears in his eyes and came over to me for a cuddle. He was sad and ashamed. I comforted him and told him ‘nope you’re fine to wear a dress please don’t worry’.”

She then politely stood up to her mother-in-law, “I calmly asked MIL for a word in the kitchen. I told her that I want my kids to love themselves and it’s very important for me and her son to install self confidence in them. And that I would prefer she stay with her daughter instead.”

“My husband totally backed me up on this. So we called and arranged for her to stay at my SIL. She was fine with it and we knew MIL would be fine there,” the woman shared, relieved to be able to move her mother-in-law out of her home.

Her mother-in-law wasn’t impressed, “MIL expressed how she couldn’t believe we were being so drastic. But it’s our house and we take her attitude against our son very seriously. This is a judge free house in that way.”

The drama didn’t end there though, with the mother-in-law sharing her disappointment with other family members to rally their support, “She has unfortunately involved a few family members who don’t agree with our decision and have took it upon themselves to tell us.”

Do you think they did the right thing by asking the grandma to move on?

  • My Grandson loved wearing dresses. Has turned out not at all Gay. In fact a father..Would not have bothered me if was LBG.

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  • Yeah I wouldn’t have kicked her out. I would have explained my view to her first to try get her to understand. Bit of an overreaction. Not everyone is used to seeing little boys in dresses.

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  • I totally agree with standing up to Grandma for your kids’ sake. You should do that. But I would probably have given her one more chance after the talking to, and kicked her out if she said/ did anything inappropriate after that.

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  • Without knowing what your husband said you should consider that as a warning and allow for he to apologise! As someone who would love to be able to do anything to not allow my in laws to stay, I feel kicking her out for one comment was a bit harsh! How will she learn to love and accept him if she is instantly rejected?
    I also would have taken my son by the hand and said let’s go to the playground and left the house with him wearing the dress to drive home my point!

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  • If that will be my mil I will do the same ( only as we have that kind “relationship ” between us ….)

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  • Different generations…nothing like trying to voice your side tho

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  • I think asking her to move out without trying to make her understand and preferably get an apology so peace could be reinstated was a little harsh … the situation has now been left open to more discord ….

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  • It’s a bit over the top kicking her out – I still have respect for my elders. Obviously there’s no issue with a kid wearing what they like indoors, it doesn’t even mean that they are trans at such a young age. However, I think MIL could have been brought into line and made to apologise or something and everyone could have been made to get along, surely.

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